Feel like a failure after being dumped

[54zoolane]

Posted before about this 'relationship'.

A guy I've been seeing recently ended things because he wasn't sure if there was anything there besides just having a nice time. We only dated for six weeks or so but I feel like such a failure!

There were red flags all over it namely that he insisted he wasn't sure if he was ready for something long term. He kept bringing this up which ultimately made me hold back a lot emotionally.

I've now been single 4 years and had a string of almost relationships. Could it be that I don't have the right personality for a boyfriend? I'm not sure how to stop the feelings of failure.

To be honest if I knew I wouldn't feel like this I would have ended things between us a while ago

If there were red flags all over it, your only mistake is that you didn't end it before.

If your other 'almost relationships' have ended similarly then I'd say it's more that you need to be weeding these men out sooner instead of allowing them to become almost relationships and wasting your time.

O hon it's not you. Even short relationships can be devestating but whatever leads to feelings of devestation will right themselves. X

He kept bringing this up which ultimately made me hold back a lot emotionally.

This reads as though you think it was your fault for not being more open emotionally.

It wasn't your fault. If he wasn't sure he was ready for something long term a) he'd have ended it anyway and b) you should have walked if you did want something long term.