Can love come back?

[AnnieDianaLulu]

If he doesn't feel like saying I love you (doesn't mean it) but wants to give it another go, can that love come back?

No. Not in my experiencr, anyway.

But, in my case, love had been eroded away and replaced with contempt and indifference. I guess it might be different if love was still there but just much diminished

Yes, but it depends what’s been said or done. I think relationships do go through peaks and troughs. There has been times where I cannot stand the fucking sight of my husband or that I am bored shitless and want to be free (and I am sure he feels the same way) but we always love each other deep down. Right now I think it is as good as when we were young and new, so that’s bloody lovely.

What PP said. As long as you're both fully invested, I don't see why you wouldn't stand a chance at getting the love back.

Have you been apart for long, OP?

Ah not long, but after every little argument we had, it was always so much love after - from his part too. I did this time also, but he didn't, said he had enough after all the little bickering and it's true, it was getting too much so we made some adjustments, took a bit of time (2 weeks) and babe come back at it, although we are getting along well, he didn't really say I love you or show much affection, he tells me that he doesn't feel like it yet, that really worries me but obviously at the beginning we didn't love each other until a little later on of course, so maybe it just needs that time again. Thanks for the replies

*then (not babe!)

If romantic love is a combination of lust and respect, you can recover the lust, but not the respect. IMO, once the respect is gone from a romantic partnership, it's gone permanently.