Emotionally unavailable man

[clpsmum]

In such a predicament! I'm with an emotionally unavailable man and I know I should end it but really don't want to. He means more to me than I do to him. Do I just accept he's no good at talking and expressing his feelings or do I move on?

@SwishSwishSheesh apologies just re read your post and it's not horrible at all. Sorry! I was reading on the move with kids earlier. I actually wish I were more like you!

@clpsmum no worries, I just wanted to show you a different perspective and, in a way, warn you that this is what he might be thinking too...

For clarity, I used to care and and get invested and be very considerate. Got taken advantage of so no more nice Swish I'm not a total bitch though, I have my moments!

Definitely read the fall back book. Highly recommend. It explains a lot about why women go for emotionally unavailable men.

actually I think SwishSwishSheesh is right. But it's the important subtext - the bread she/he is parodying in this harsh fashion (so it sinks in??). All the other stuff you are trying to convince yourself of "He cares about me a lot we just are at different stages and due to his circumstances finds it difficult to talk about his emotions" is the jam - the sweetener.

Because: People behave in selfish and cruel ways - but they often can't bear to be the baddie, so they lather it in acceptable flavouring. And like a fly around jam - you are stuck.

life rule Judge people by what they actually do (or don't do) NOT by what they say.

Once you can really comprehend that - relationships will be a whole lot easier to navigate.

I'm not saying he is a bad person or he doesn't 'care' about you on some kind of level. But I am saying that people mostly act in their own self interests. And some of the cruelest behaviour comes from emotionally unavailable weak people who can't bear to be honest.

oh - message stream has overtaken me a bit!

"Emotionally unavailable" is just a fancy way of saying selfish, ungiving twunt.

And who wants to be with a selfish, ungiving twunt?

@PicsInRed has got it spot on. Don't kid yourself thinking it's just the wrong time or whatever else you chose to tell yourself to make this situation acceptable. It's not what you want to hear and it's hard to take it for what it is but it's the truth.