Can anyone help me make sense of this?

[gettingfedupagain]

Do people suddenly change their feelings for someone like this?

I've been seeing someone for seven months. He is 53 with five children, three grown up, two living with his stbxw. He has been living with his parents since the separation two and a half years ago. I am 48, single parent of three.

We haven't had sex very often because of our respective living arrangements but we see each other once or twice a week and are very affectionate and kiss etc. When we have had sex it's been really great and he's said it's been amazing etc. He declared love a couple of months ago and has always said that everything has been right and brilliant with us etc

Anyway he's just ended it because he only wants to be friends and doesn't see me "that way" any more but last time I saw him, four days ago he was still keen and fancied me!

I'm really confused how he can change so quickly. Nothing out of the ordinary happened last time I saw him or since so how do people suddenly go from hot to cold with no warning? It doesn't make sense to me

Could be someone else if he suddenly doesn't see you that way, sounds quite odd out the blue. Anyone he used to mention a lot?

Oh that's really sad and upsetting

Make sure you keep yourself busy hun, he doesn't deserve you , his loss xx

He kind of said he regretted leaving the family home because of the impact on the children, and that he was getting on better with his very abusive narcissistic stbxw. But he claims that it is totally unrelated to him suddenly only wanting to be friends and not seeing me in that way anymore

I’ll bet someone else is on the scene. Whether it’s the ex or someone random, I couldn’t say.

Very strange.

Maybe someone else/new but .. we can guess on here all day; only one person knows, and it doesn't seem like he's going to tell you the truth, the full story.

That deceitfulness, alongside his decision (even if he were to change his mind, it won't be the same again, will it) mean he's not a good person to be in a relationship with.

Yes it makes sense that he's at least interested in someone else. I guess men don't suddenly switch for no reason.

I'm so pissed off that I invested seven months in him before he flaked. I honestly thought I'd found a decent one