Is he taking the p*** ?

[southweather]

So I’ve been in a new relationship for the last 3 months. He works a lot even some weekends (he runs a few businesses) but yesterday he cancelled day time plans as he had a football match and is in the process of moving so he had to move some bits to his new house he then came round in the evening we made plans to do something today he left my house early and was supposed to be back hours ago so we could go out but he’s just called saying he got tied up with work and will be round as soon as he can! I’m sitting here dressed and hungry waiting for him and beyond pissed off I feel like telling him not to bother and just going out to eat with friends. Am I over reacting?

Well you aren’t a priority that’s for sure. Depends on whether or not you are ok with that.

Go out and eat with friends! Catch up with him later.

Yes, go out with friends. Set a precedent where he respects you enough to keep plans with you. It may be a one- off, in which case I would let it go. But I would set out my stall now to let him know you won't be hanging around waiting until whenever he's ready to see you.

Hmmm. He seems to be carrying on with his life exactly as he was before, with the addition of sleeping with you. He turns up late, stays the night and then buggers off early the next morning.

Is that how you want the relationship to be?

Assert yourself now or it will become much much harder later. If he reacts badly to an assertive woman, then you know what to do.

He Maybe just having a stressful time at the mo. Either tell him or change your plans and stand him up and he will get to see how it feels.

Move on.

You’re not a priority for him

He actually turned up yesterday 30min after I wrote this out with a bunch of flowers and kept on apologising for being late 🙈 we ended up having a lovely day so I feel silly now. But thank you all for the replies x

He still left you hanging around for hours. If you don't nip this in the bud, your relationship will turn into one where you are always the one waiting around - and he knows the odd bunch of flowers will mean he gets to pick you up and drop you as he likes.

Next time he tries something like this, tell him you are too busy to be waiting around and are off to do something else. Or if he doesn't turn up when expected, don't wait for him.

Otherwise you could spend years waiting around for him and being cancelled on regularly. Remember - we teach others how to treat us.