Hi everyone, I'm new to this and just wanted some advice on my situation.
I'm 32 and partner is 36 and we have been together 6 years and pretty much have been tying for a baby from day one.
In the last year we finally went to the doctors, all my blood tests come back normal, my HSG was all normal.
My partner has issues with his spent count, as currently waiting for a further appointment with our doctor to discuss what happens next.
For last two years we have had problems in our relationship which started of from me going on holiday without him, and since than he has been convinced I cheated on him.
He brings up the past a lot, like stuff from years ago, he had terrible mood swings.
I'm unhappy in the relationship, it's like his younger brother always comes first and is first priority and I'm so fed up of it.
It's like his brother expects him to drop everything for him, and it's like my partner can't say no to him.
Most weekends his brother will ask him to go to his boxing games with him, so weekends I hardly see my partner.
And if we have plans the plans will be cancelled in favour of his brother, like it was our 6 year anniversary last month, my partner had booked a very expensive hotel for us and than last minute his brother calls him up and expects him to drop everything even though he knows it's our anniversary.
So my partner had to leave me for two hours in the evening to accompany husband brother to this event, I was absolutely fuming. Like even for one day his brother could help but ruin it with his demands.
I'm really starting to feel like I don't want a baby with him anymore, I told him I don't think I am ready for kids, and he said well I want kids, and it's a deal breaker if we don't go through this fertility treatment or whatever it will be.
I just feel like if he is like this now, what will he be like with a baby?
Will the baby also come second priority? When I say to him the reasons why I don't think were ready for a baby he's like "Well if we had a baby, I wouldn't be going with my brother, I would be here looking after my baby".
Partner has also lost his job due to taking too many days of work to attend these events with his brother, so he is moaning he is short on money etc, I told him go ask your brother don't moan to me.
I feel like an being petty, as my partner reminds me I'm 32, so time is running out to have children, but would it be right to bring a child into the world where I am so unhappy in the relationship? And there is no guarantee that he would change once we had a baby.
I feel like I'm too old to just go and start over with someone else, partner refuses to go to any kind of relationship therapy either.
Please help