I don't think he really has anyone to supervise contact

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Back story (some of you on this board my recognise my username anyway): left DH about 2 months ago as he was physically, emotionally and financially abusive. We have one DD aged 19 months. Social services got involved because he also has issues with MH and ordered him to see a therapist and go to anger management. Until then, he needs to have supervised contact.
Anyway social services recently after our split totally went cold on me even though it was a volatile as ever and told DH that they were closing our case (still not sure if that is true).
He got his lawyer involved with visitation but I put my foot down at supervised after my last thread when his mum guilt tripped me into going for a meal with them and he got into an argument with her and threw a pot of yoghurt at her and tried to throw a tray of food at her (his mum) all whilst having DD on his knee.

Last weekend his sister came down so he had supervised visit, no problem. Today he has said a friend will be there. The thing is, I think this friend is a social for coffee (not a problem with that) and won't be there for the whole of the visit.
Part of me thinks trust the situation and part of me thinks as the only female in his presence, she will be face the result of his anger. What to do...

Get back in touch with SS now and don't believe a word he says to you about this. Supervised contact should be in a contact centre with professionals there, not just some random who is related/friends with your ex. You need to protect your daughter from him; you know what he is like! Do not let your child go with him until proper supervised contact is in place.

He has just admitted that there is no one to supervise. He is denying any violence and says he treated his mother wonderfully and she loved the visit (I actually believe she thinks this because he has been treating her like shit for years and she just cries and forgives him straight away). So fuming. How do I set up a contact centre?

There's two kinds of contact centre - court ordered and voluntary. The later can be found using google and they charge

My friend did something v silly and ended up having to have supervised visits with her kids for a few months. Situation was similar in the SS required her to seek addiction treatment and therapy. SS were perfectly happy for her ex to be the "supervision" for those months - ex has full custody for that time, they would meet at the park for instance and ex had to be there. So it doesn't have to be a contact centre.

If SS have no further involvement, can you insist on supervised visits yourself? I think you might need to go to court and have evidence as to why you feel that way.

Pressed too soon ...

You pay a fee to set it up and most run on donations. They provide a number of rooms typically full of age appropriate toys etc but do not actually supervise the interaction. The other kind is only available through social services and you would need to get a court to agree he is a risk to your dc (not you or his mother).

Many people choose to have an arrangement where the mother/sister etc takes the child and the absent parent visits during this time, with or without a court order.

He is doing this though as he thinks I am just being a bitch and doesn't need supervised time. I think it will end up in court.
I just wanted to hold off on court appointed visits for now as I plan on moving 250miles away and I don't want to end up doing all the catching and ferrying

He is being a goady fucker 😭. He is just walking around calling me paranoid and asking for my new address and smirking saying I don't need to tell him, he is going to find out anyway 😭