Why do I feel bad he cheated

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So it's nearly 3am and I can't sleep. I feel like shit even though he lied and cheated on me and as it transpired his other relationship too. Initially I was so strong but tonight I just feel like it's all hit me like a ton of bricks. I loved him, he said he loved me but it was all lies. How could I have been so stupid!!! I think I'm mourning what could've been (before finding out) and why I didn't see sooner. I feel so pathetic!

You are not pathetic. You are a loving person who trusted him. HE IS THE BASTARD and the only one to blame. Get rid and move on.

@Aquamarine1029 Thank you, I know you're right and I got rid as soon as I found out. It's just weeks later I think it's all caught up

OP, you're a brave un. Well done.

FWIW, when my DC was in hospital one summer, under v difficult circumstances, I just got on with it and everyone thought I was so strong.

It took until Christmas that year when I suddenly fell apart, starting having nightmares, afraid of dark etc. It all cleared up in time.

The reason I tell the story is that I want you to know that its really quite normal for these things to take a while to hit you. He hurt you, he shocked and betrayed you. Of course you're going to feel shit. You're not pathetic, you're just dealing with the aftershocks of his mistreatment of you x

Thank you @rvby I've just been plodding through and I haven't dealt with it and boom tonight's the night it's hit me

3am when you can’t sleep is a very lonely place to be. What you’re feeling is perfectly natural. It’s shitty right now but it will be OK with time.