Lost

[misspollie]

So I've been with my partner 2 years now, after a year we moved in together, I've always known he was a gamer doesn't bother me because he didn't really play too much, anyway fast forward to a few months ago and he's spending all his time on there talking to his mates until stupid o'clock in the morning so I go to bed alone every night, we don't spend any time together because as soon as he's back from work he's on his play station, and it's the same when I come back from work too he's on his PS4 I try to make a conversation with him but it just feels as if he'd rather talk to them than me as I always get a what and a shitty mood response yet the second he's back on his head set he's shouting and laughing, I've told him how I feel but he said I was being paranoid and clingy, I can't remember the last time was we did anything nice together or even spent time together 😔😔

How old is? 13!!! Tell him to get a life and start being an adult.

Shockingly he's 27🙃🙃

Yes definitely time to grow up, and his friends by the sound of it!! I couldn't put up with it constantly...I think some form of ultimatum would be issued.

I'm honestly so lost in what todo, I've told him so many times I feel so lonely especially with my daughter goes to bed 😔 he just seems more interested in everything else except our relationship 😩

Doesn’t sound like he’s serious about you or your relationship. Or at best he’s taking you for granted.

I definitely feel he's taking me for granted, he constantly moans that stuff in the house needs doing. I spend all day cleans and playing With my 4 year old while she's off school for summer, I was working 2 days ago and he text me asking why the washing hadn't been done and why is nothing clean....instead of washing it he waited until I come home from a 8 hour shift to do the washing up 😒 I definitely think I need to get out of this 'relationship'

I definitely get the feeling he doesn't care anymore, I just asked him if he'll be coming bed anytime soon he said nah I'm busy. I dunno maybe he feels like he's just trapped now because he knows I've only got him and his family to support me and my daughter 😣😣

@misspollie

I'm honestly so lost in what todo

Are you really lost, or you just dont want to do the only, most obvious thing you have to do?

Surely you have to get out of this relationship? What other choice could you possibly be considering??

I've give him 2 weeks to change and if nothing changes then I've told him he can leave🤦🏻‍♀️ I'm too old for this shit I've a 4 year old to think about ( we don't have any children together) and it's not fair on her to have to listen to the ballshit that comes out his mouth when he's on the PS4 shouting at random fucking strangers

he is another fucking idoit that needs to. grow up. your not asking for anything out of the ordinary. show him the door .your not valued .I have just kicked mine out .another fucking idiot that won't listen .better off without all this shite in your life. I am too old for dickheads like mine good luck x

Oh absolutely @orangesun35 anyone would think we were asking for the world 🤦🏻‍♀️ we are meant to be moving house on Thursday (new house is in my name)
He's not once helped me pack up the house or even offered to do his sons room, just spends all his time in that fucking play station, I honestly don't know how I've not broken the fucking thing! It's half 10 now and I'm still up packing even though I've been up from 7am running around after a 4 year old and trying to sort dinner out too 🙃

Fucking lazy prick man

Had one like that years ago . .. another fucking idiot..dead easy for us to say get rid . But honestly you deserve better . He’s not worth it . He won’t make you happy ..on a bastard come to bed nah ... instead of coming to bed with his lovely girlfriend he would rather play on that . Bet that makes you feel dead special. What a dead loss of a man ...,, don’t know a good woman when they have got one . Fuck them . We are better than that !

@orangesun35 you have absolutely no idea, I can literally walk past him with ass and tits out and he won't even batter an eye lid now where as before he'd be all over it haha but now he's rather stay on that until god knows when, then come bed when I'm already asleep and get up for work at half 6 the next morning so I won't even see him properly until he's finished work or if I'm finished work , I honestly don't know what's gotten into him recently 🤷🏻‍♀️ honest to god I'm not having it anymore! If you wanna spend all your time on that fucking ballshit thing then you can do it and be single, I'm not being taken for a mug anymore

you go girl..... nobody wants a relationship to fail.but its not right. l am a good bit older than you.55 but l don't care I will start again then but up with shite men .read my post if you get a chance mines a bag of shit too your not alone night x

I definitely will read your post! I don't understand why some men feel the need to treat us like shit I'm just thankful that our new house is in my name and not his or both, gunna be shit that he's to move out but it's his own fault. What do they really get out of being lazy fucks 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ actually shocks me because it's only Been the last few months 😒😒

He kept the mask of normality up until he thought he "had" you. This is who he really is. Is this what you want the rest if your life to look like? And, no, this won't improve if you have children. He won't step up. You'll be ground down.

What if you just packed your and your daughters stuff and on Thursday just leave with DD leaving him to sort his own crap?

I think you are just taken for granted here especially that you have a child he knows it will be much more difficult for you to leave. If he wants to have all done for him without moving a finger maybe he should move back with his parents

How does he spend time with his DS? Does he put in any effort or just plays games and you organise time with his DS?

What do they really get out of being lazy fucks?

The problem is that they get everything once they find someone too nice or too scared to stand up to them! They get dinners, tidy house, washing done, shirts ironed, kids looked after with a minimum effort.

Why would he need to stop playing play station when he can just carry on having fun and you do everything for him?

Time to learn his lesson.

Since you're moving and the new house is in your name, you have the perfect opportunity. Move without him.

Sounds like a bratty teen playing games to all hours as if has no responsibilities & expecting everything done for him. Nobody needs that for a partner, send him back to his parents

Move to your new house without him, its actually not as lonely being alone than with someone ignoring you.

Nah he's gone, after talking to him about my feelings he's done anything to even remotely show me he's gunna change, I asked him today to help pack the rest of the house as we've only tomorrow to do it in, instead he fucked off to sleep, he always embarrassed the shit out of me at work, came storming in with a sausage bap and shouting at the top of his voice don't say I don't do anything nice for you 😒 he's fucking gone man!! I've told him he's not moving into the new house with me and that I'm not being treated like shit anymore

You sound like you've been married for 20 years, not like a new relationship. Get rid! Should still be fun and happy at two years, he's a user.

His gaming is an avoidance strategy, whether he recognizes that or not. He’s also addicted. He won’t change unless he wants to change.

I would give him the two weeks to move out.

Right it's crazy we've been together just over 2 years 🤦🏻‍♀️ I've told him I'm no longer happy and that I wanna be alone now, at least If it's me and my daughter I've no one to moan at for not helping around the house

@Winterlife we are meant to be moving house on Thursday I've told him I'm done. He doesn't pay a single bit of attention to me, when I ask him where I always get a shitty reply he embarrassed the hell out me at work today, he's not gonna change, after telling him how I feel last night you'd think he's try and make an effort instead I'm in bed alone again, I've asked him a number of times if he's gunna come to bed soon he said nah, this morning he was shouting at screaming at me because I woke him up at half 8 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️