feel drained by inl's & dh

[thegardener]

My inl's are difficult people to be around but have periods where they seem ok then they go awful again.

My dh has started a new job a few months ago and is really irritable and stressed with that, i'm starting to dread weekends with him as we always seem to argue,he also gets so iritated with ds(18mths)

My sister doesn't want children so doesn't understand what it's like being a mum & how much your life changes.

I've had problems with my mum re calling round & ringing me all the time, generally having to set new boundaries & with the inlaws.

I've got pmt at the mo so probably feel a bit low with that but i just feel like i've had enough of family except ds as he's great.

Maybe i just need more nights out with friends?

Does anyone else feel like this?

((((((((tg)))))))))

my ssi like yours as well, she's never wanted kids so thinks we can drop everything and go visit at the drop of a hat (not to mention the cost of the train fare!). it does seem like you need more "me" time sweetheart. even though dp's il live between 5 and 20 minutes walk away (they're all in the local area) it's not really a close knit family so i'm always saying that we should see them more often but i could imagine what it's like if they're being awful with you (btw yoi odn't say in what way) but i'm saure that quite a few people wil fee l the same as you .

Try to get one night out a week with friends-it really helps keep you sane-or go to the gym or anything for yourself.
Also if you can get even half an hour in the day to switch off it helps.

Felt like you about a year ago-I have no support-2 kids, aged mother (like a kid),aweful,draining inlaws,stressed out husband.

I restrict visits from mother,now hardly ever see inlaws(bliss),ignore ranting husband(helps if you think of a song you really like when he's ranting)and concentrate on lovely children.Helps that son loves pre-school as it gives us both a break.
I do find weekends hard-I try to relax in the week and accept they are difficult.
I think there must be lots of mums with little or no support-you just tend to hear about the ones with fantastic mothers.

Hope you feel better

I've no support - it is bloody hard going. You have put all your energy and good vibes into your child and instead of helping you recharge your batteries, everyone else sucks you dry and then you get resentful because they dare to ask why you're not yourself. They never stop for a minute to imagine themselves in your position.

Thanks for your messages will try the song when dh is ranting!!

I am so glad i am not alone, obviously i wish no-one else felt like this but it is really a comfort to know i'm not alone.

It'so right what you said vgs, that's exactly how i feel, my sister even sent me an email complaing about me & thought i could even be suffering from pnd, which i haven't. my family & inl's either forget what it's like or just have no idea, but then you wouldn't if you didn't have kids i expect but i certainly wouldn't send an email complaininbg about someone because they are happy with their child & have little time for me?? but that's in the past now and i try to forget about that.

I have started going to a exercise class with a friend and took your advice fransmom and had some me time today & i have to say feel much better for it, dh looked after ds whilst i went shopping in town.

Will try and relax more during the week and except that the weekends will be a little more stressful at the moment

The latest with the inl's is a photo album of ds they gave me for my birthday with loads of pictures of them in it & a a4 size one of mil

What makes them think you want an A4 size pic of MIL?

I don't know why anyone would?