Online date disappeared

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We’ve been messaging for two weeks or so, he’s been instigating and following up. Agreed to drinks on Friday earlier in week but I completely forgot it was my Dad’s birthday so asked him - with a few days notice - if we could reschedule. He was absolutely fine with it and said next Monday is good. We exchanged a few messages but then he hasn’t replied to my last message - which asked a few questions since Wednesday. Has he blown me off?

Who knows?

Probably?

Maybe?

The question you should be asking yourself is, "would I still be interested given that he's made no contact since Wednesday?"

Sounds like a typical online dating kind of guy to be honest, there are hundreds of them out there who behave that way. Forget him and move on

He reappeared after three days. Answered my msg from last Wednesday and asked how my weekend was. We’re meant to be going on a date tomorrow eve. Don’t want to reply quickly as he left me hanging for days. I’m not even interested to meet him btw, this is just out of desperation / lack of other eligible men. Any advice?

Tbh, if it took him 3 days to reply, and you're not even interested in meeting him, I wouldn't bother replying at all.

You deserve better than this, surely?

If you're not interested in meeting him then don't.

If you're not interested to meet him... why are you looking for advice? If you're desperate because due to lack of eligible men... either meet and smash and dash: or don't reply.

If you're into the guy, see what the excuse was and go from there... but you're not interested... apparently

Surely he doesn’t have to give an excuse for not replying to someone for a few days?

See my other thread about fearing that I’ll die alone. Maybe I need to force myself just to get out there...

Cancelling a first date is a bit off putting. He probably thinks, correctly, that you're not that keen.

Disappearing men and lying men seems to be a big problem ... if you are a plumber, a carpenter or a car mechanic please don't call yourself an engineer, if you are self employed please don't claim to be a managing director. If you invite someone for a drink please turn up...

See my other thread about fearing that I’ll die alone. Maybe I need to force myself just to get out there...

Well... I haven't read your other thread but I can pretty much guarantee that, if this is your starting point, you are going to be very disappointed.

Seriously, you'd rather meet someone you're ambivalent about and who is equally ambivalent about you - at best - than be on your own?

That's just tragic.

JustHavingASadDay I’ve been very happy and single for most of my life so I have no problem being on my own, thank you very much. I’m independent and self sufficient. But as a human being, I crave love and company, and my biological clock is ticking. Common advice is to go on as many dates as possible. Don’t think it’s tragic that I am pondering this and seeking advice on the forum 🙄

So date him then.

Except that you're not even interested in meeting him.

So why bother?

Save your time and energy to get talking to someone you at least think you might be interested in meeting.