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How to let go when you don’t trust...

5 replies

Inexperiencedchick · 05/07/2019 18:56

I have written him an email, haven’t send it yet.
There is a back story... which doesn’t matter anymore. I just don’t trust him enough to be with him. It is eating me up and I don’t want to become miserable and sad person.

Is there anyone who managed to walk away and be happy again?

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lifegoes · 05/07/2019 18:59

Yes. So many women will tell you on here how happy they are since they left a man they didn't trust any longer.

JustHavingASadDay · 05/07/2019 19:30

Is there anyone who managed to walk away and be happy again?

Oh God, yes!

The relief is immense and almost immediate.

Unless by 'happy' you mean 'find a boyfriend'. Because I am happy but there is no man on the scene.

Inexperiencedchick · 05/07/2019 19:40

Thank you for the replies.

I meant “happy” in general, with/without a man.

I’m happy on my own because I know that there is “no one who is so close but at the same time will hurt me any minute”

I just left his place today in the morning today, and all day I was questioning his words, because somehow they don’t add up. I don’t want to live like this anymore... I have always been honest with myself, possibly overlooked things in the past...

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Inexperiencedchick · 05/07/2019 19:41

But tried to keep honesty to the maximum.

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Mintjulia · 05/07/2019 19:42

Yes. I’m single but with my lovely son, and I don’t have to worry if I’m being lied to or let down anymore. The worse that can happen is someone says their homework is finished when it isn’t.
I am no longer criticised or undermined.
I’m no longer expected to spend more money than I can afford. I don’t have to cook a bastard lump of dead animal every night. Cheese biscuits and a glass of wine are perfectly acceptable.

I can have sunshine colours in my house. And no Jeremy Clarkson. There is much less mess. Things don’t get broken. I have time for me.

It is just such a relief. Smile

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