Am I oversensitive?

[ImNotYourGranny]

I've been no contact with my entire family for years now and they are still absolutely bloody furious about it. According to them and everyone they know, they've never done anything wrong and I'm completely oversensitive and over react to minor things.

I don't think I am over sensitive. I think that I'm the only one who has normal reactions to things and that they're the ones who are fucked up. But even if they are right and I am over sensitive, then why do they keep doing things that hurt me? I know my DS is very sensitive so I take more care when dealing with him.

So is it OK if I run some incidents past you guys so you can tell me honestly if you would be upset? I have many to choose from. The no contact is from the cumulative effective rather than one particular instance (although there was one that was the final straw).

OMG this is HORRENDOUS !!!! What vile disgusting people.

Your poor ds xxxx

Your family sound awful, your definitely not being over sensitive.

Haha, what a surprise. A random on the internet has 2 of your brothers to a T! Let me tell you, you won't be the only one to hate them all, the girlfriend, her parents and the whole of MN for a start!

Bunch of bastards!

My DH found a hedgehog in the garden once. He came rushing to fetch some cat food and plate to feed it and later built a hedgehog house in the garden, just in case it came back.

My brother found a hedgehog in the garden once. He brought it inside and threw it at my sister. They then started throwing it at each other with much screaming and 'hilarity' until I managed to get the poor creature off them. FFS I'm such a killjoy. Bastards!

I seriously could go on and on but I think I'd eventually reach a point where you'll all think I'm making it up.

The girlfriend's parents go on holiday with them all. They all go on holiday together. It's like a cult. Even the neighbours were in the villa next door. The only one who doesn't/didn't go was me. That's because the one time I did go my dad wouldn't let me leave the villa until I'd finished my dinner. I was 27 FFS and he locked the door so that I couldn't get out. I caught a flight home the next day and never went away with them again.

To be fair, my siblings also couldn't leave until they'd finished their dinner but they thought it was funny that he was in such a rage. I was the only one who had an issue with it.

Writing it down I'm beginning to realise how utterly deranged they all sound.

I always imagined that these sorts of situations are exaggerated until I met my best friends uni.

She is the sweetest, kindest, most loving and positive person. Who has the family from HELL!

Her “D”Parents are constantly on her back about what an idiot and failure she is. She is a highly successful solicitor but they wanted her to be a corporate lawyer in a magic circle firm and as a result, is apparently an embarrassment to them.

Her “D” Sis bullies and ridicules her even though she herself is a part time receptionist in a travel agency. My friend made the cardinal mistake of getting into grammar school and her older sister never forgave her.

I get furious on her behalf and wish she had the courage to go NC. They are fucking awful to her and frankly don’t deserve her love.

You are an absolute winner. You went through that horrendous abuse and you kept your kindness and empathy intact. Much respect to you. Keep up the good work and stay away from those evil people. You are a very strong person.

Good for you for getting out of that toxic environment.