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Deleted chat

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Loneraaven · 04/07/2019 19:12

Hi everyone looking for people opinion here. I have noticed that my partner has deleted there chat with there ex who is still there friend should I be concerned.

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Sunsetsandcloudyskies · 04/07/2019 19:33

Yes because if there was nothing to hide then they wouldn't delete it. How long have they been split up for?

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Loneraaven · 04/07/2019 19:41

They have been split up for around 3-4 years then we met and maybe about 2 years ago they started talking again. And are friends.

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Lola999 · 04/07/2019 19:42

I would be Tbh

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Loneraaven · 04/07/2019 19:54

How do I approach this

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Sunsetsandcloudyskies · 04/07/2019 19:55

How do you know it’s been deleted?

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Loneraaven · 04/07/2019 19:59

Because they always talk everyday near enough. I borrowed my partners phone and noticed that there was no WhatsApp chat from there ex. But everyone else they speak to is still in the chat list.

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Lola999 · 04/07/2019 20:06

Why are they talking every day?

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Loneraaven · 04/07/2019 20:09

Because the have became good friends. They love be miles away from each other so the never actually see on and other. But I just find it strange the chat is gone

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Lola999 · 04/07/2019 20:12

Yes that's strange. But also strange they talk everyday!!!! Wtf

TheStuffedPenguin · 04/07/2019 20:14

It is strange but we all know why . He is saying things that he doesn't want you to see.

hadthesnip2 · 04/07/2019 20:15

Their not there.

There I said it

Frownette · 04/07/2019 20:21

Do you think maybe they've decided to phase out contact now? Just ask him directly about the amount of time they have spent chatting

Frownette · 04/07/2019 20:22

hadthesnip2 Smile

Mum4Fergus · 04/07/2019 20:30

Have you noticed anything else that makes you suspicious?

I delete everything! Doesn't mean I'm being unfaithful or having conversations that I wouldn't be happy with DH knowing about Hmm it's just what I do.

Is it just this one conversation thread that has gone?

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Loneraaven · 04/07/2019 20:33

It’s a hard one because I work away from home Monday to Friday and she could be up to god knows what.

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CookieCheesecake · 04/07/2019 20:44

There is stuff in the chat he doesn’t want you to see

CookieCheesecake · 04/07/2019 20:46

Ops. Not sure if your male or female from your last post but either way there is something in the chat they don’t want you to see

jelly79 · 04/07/2019 22:28

Is there just no chat there or has it been deleted? Maybe they text and not what's app?
You must feel uncomfortable otherwise you wouldn't have looked / noticed so you should chat with your partner about their friendship

toffeeapple123 · 04/07/2019 22:32

Either he has something to hide or is worried about you reading into things.

flyingplum · 05/07/2019 09:10

Are they still friends? Perhaps they deleted it because they had an argument with the ex, and deleted in a flourish of ‘fuck you!’?

hellsbellsmelons · 05/07/2019 09:27

Someone messaging an Ex every day!!???
They'd be long gone.
Have you looked it Whatsapp archive chat?

Pinkmonkeybird · 05/07/2019 09:30

There's usually only one reason people delete chats like this...they have something to hide.

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