I was chatting to a friend of mine, who asked if I had seen my mum recently, when I said no not for a while, she said oh I saw her the other day with your sister. We continued chatting and my friend said its sad that she doesn't have the same relationship with your son as she doesn't with her other grandchildren.
This has left a bit of doubt in my head. I am going to try not to drip feed.
There is a massive difference between my family and my sister's family, my mum does live closer to my sister, she always babysits for her as both sister and husband work long hours during the day, they have a spare room in their house, which we don't. In the last month I think my mum has been there 3 or 4 days a week. We don't have a car, so my mum would have to drive here as getting to her on train is a nightmare and can take up to 3 hours (40 minute drive) However mum doesn't like driving at night, so that limits her during the winter months.
We have a dog, which mum doesn't like and both my nephews are older so actually take less effort, in a sense to watch than my son who is always on the go.
They have taken my son away on weekends away (which we wouldn't be able to afford as a family) theme parks day outs, just general days out.
Neither partners have parents on their side so it is just my mum and dad
I don't get on brilliantly with my sister, nothing major we are just two very different people, with very different lives, so I am wondering if this is where the doubt comes from.
I wonder whether I should say something to my mum about missing out on my DS or to be honest just leave it. She does phone DS a lot and he has never noticed any difference and if he did it can be explained that sister and family have very different lives to us so Nana needs to give them a bit more of a helping hand.
We have had a really tough year, so I am probably more sensitive to a throw away comment at the moment.
Oh and if you are wondering why this isn't about my Dad he sees the grandchildren once in a while as he lives abroad