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Out of curiosity

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Captained · 03/07/2019 23:26

Does anyone on MN have a good relationship with their other half? Just curious as I only ever see negative posts about relationships, sex etc etc.

I have an amazing relationship with my DH, a great sex life, we rarely have a crossed word, we’re the best friends & love spending time together.

Am I in the minority? I really hope not.

OP posts:

pog100 · 03/07/2019 23:44

Why would anyone want to post about their ideal relationships, except maybe to crow about them and display some sort of superiority complex?

PocketsForMe · 03/07/2019 23:46

Pog

Nailed it! That is all

TacCat49 · 03/07/2019 23:46

As I understand it the purpose of this forum is for those with problems to be able to seek support and answers from others.
I'm so happy that the sun is shining and the birds are singing in your neck of the woods. So, you would not be posting on here would you? That is unless you are gloating? Surely not.

Piggle23 · 03/07/2019 23:52

Most people have a good one before they need to post here. I had a great relationship until he started shagging someone else.

Barkette · 03/07/2019 23:54

Oh no you've been pounced upon. Good for you that you have a good life that fulfils your needs. I think the lines get blurred somehow as yes for me it's important I hear both the positives and the negatives of relationships. Surely that's the point of this site...

SuzieQ10 · 03/07/2019 23:54

Many posters say what a wonderful relationship they've had ... making it all the more surprising & painful that they have just found ... tinder on their partner's phone / gay prostitutes website logged in with a booking for Wednesday / knickers that aren't theirs in the car / condoms in DH's sports bag / DH wanking under the covers to porn on phone while baby awake in room.

Oh yes everyone's happy as Larry, until they're not. Don't speak too soon!

BobTheFishermansWife · 03/07/2019 23:57

As pps have said, most users do, but due to the nature of the forum you will tend to see the negativity more so than the positivity when discussing relationships.

FWIW I have a really good relationship with my OH, so have no comment to make on him here for the most part.

VenusTiger · 04/07/2019 00:12

Why would anyone write a thread about how wonderful their OH is? That’s daft. If it’s so good you’re on a forum telling people then it’s likely a lie. I don’t even post stuff about my DH on FB because i think it’s private and means more to me than the whole world knowing about it.

1forAll74 · 04/07/2019 00:39

I am in the perfect relationship.. and that's just me and me alone. I had the perfect relationship with a husband years ago. and now you can see,I am on my own,and happy.. If you have been in your perfect relationship, as in for 30 years, please tell us how you have kept things to perfection.

OKMorty · 04/07/2019 00:45

Ridiculous OP. Relationships is largely a place for advice.

It’s like posting: “just as a matter of interest, does anyone who goes into therapy have fabulous lives with no money problems, wonderful relationships with family, friends and happily married?”

Well, maybe it’s something the hard of thinking might post...

RubberTreePlant · 04/07/2019 00:50

Don't be daft OP. Just think it through.

EmeraldRubyShark · 04/07/2019 06:43

Of course!

There are occasional threads that pop up where people ask for posters to share why they love their partner or something amazing that they’ve done for them. Usually under the context that the OP wants some hope there are happy relationships out there.

Why don’t you start one of those? You’ll soon see.

ConfCall · 04/07/2019 06:53

For the same reason people don’t post about how wonderful, lucrative and uneventful their jobs are in the Employment topic ie it would be pointless and rather crass.

booboo24 · 04/07/2019 07:14

Why would people post to say everything is going great?! I had a wonderful relationship with my husband from when i met him aged 14 up until he left me suddenly for someone else at the age of 36! He was my best friend! I now have a great relationship with my fiance, but the rose tinted spectacles that I was viewing life through for all of those years are now off!!! I'm totally happy and in love but I'm not 'blindly trusting anymore.

This is a support forum hence all the problems!!!

booboo24 · 04/07/2019 07:20

What I would say is that I turned to this site 6 years ago when my husband left, it was a great comfort and a great source of advice. I've stayed since as I hoped I could help others in the same way I was helped. Sadly though for me, it tends to feed my insecurities slightly as it is hard to read all the stories of deception etc. I do have to remind myself of exactly what i've said above, noone is going to go to a relationships forum and gloat about how happy they are. Well....except you Op! only kidding, I am genuinely happy that you're in a decent relationship, if anything, this site should just give you a bit of foresight should you ever feel things are out of kilter, but I hope you never need it x

BuildBuildings · 04/07/2019 07:29

Yes. He's lovely after 15 years I'm definitely still in love. He was raised by a woman with strong feminist and social values so I really think that has made him unusual compared to my friends/family partners. Who do complain about selfish partners especially ones who feel they don't need to contribute to childcare and household chores. He does more than me around the house, he's supportive of my career, he ears 3x my salary but we pool everything, we share values and have lots of fun.

However as first pp said why would I make a thread like this? It would be really annoying and goady, like look at my perfect relationship!

cookiechomper · 04/07/2019 07:33

Yes I have a great relationship with DH. You'll usually find negative relationship threads on here from people asking for advice or needing to vent. There'd be do need to start a thread about your happy relationship.

Ginger1982 · 04/07/2019 07:33

Oh man...somebody did a thread along the same lines as this before and got her arse handed to her.

@Captained good for you that you have a great relationship, many of us do. A lot of people don't. It's not big or clever to come onto a board like this and gloat, whether you meant to or not.

Rainbowknickers · 04/07/2019 07:39

My bloke and I are best mates and we are very happy together-80% of the times
I want to push a pillow over his head just every night and he can rub me up the wrong way when I have pmt
Nobody is happy 100% of the time-just happy on the whole

purplelass · 04/07/2019 07:49

People generally don't post stuff like that because it comes over as a bit gloaty.

I'm happy you're happy, long may it last! Even the most perfect marriage needs work sometimes though, be careful that you're not being complacent when things seem too good to be true...

Dodahdodah · 04/07/2019 07:51

It’s really lovely to read a happy post for a change. Thanks for posting. 💐

chipsandgin · 04/07/2019 07:53

For the same reason people don’t make a doctors appointment when they are feeling fit as a fiddle. It’s an advice forum. Duh 🙄

EleanorReally · 04/07/2019 07:55

Good relationships dont need much analysis or discussion on mn, that is why we only read about the bad relationships

hadthesnip2 · 04/07/2019 08:02

I think the problem OP is that this forum is for people looking for help & support & on a relationships thread you are likely to come across a vast amount of women who have been cheated on of are unhappy with their partner for one reason or another. You dont go to your GP if you're well......same as on here.

Frith2013 · 04/07/2019 08:33

A crass and insensitive OP.

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