Please accept my apologies for this garbled message. I'm getting married to the father of my 18 month old daughter and I dont know whether I'm doing the right thing. He is very controlling, everytime I try to tell him how unhappy I am in our relationship, he blames it on my bi polar.
We got together in 2015 and afterwards I became successful professionally, I'm also terrible with money so he has all control of my cards and online banking. I have no idea how much I have in my accounts-all he tells me is that I am behind with tax and that I need to pay for the wedding.
1: he is very disapproving of anything to do with my daughter. I went away to Cornwall to a holiday park with my mum and saw my daughter absolutely blossum there. She loved interacting with other kids and loved the entertainment. He hates holiday parks and being from an upper class family is very snobby about them, I am from a working class family so that is a wonderful break for me, he phoned me the entire time saying how upset he was on his own and how I was awful to go away with my family without him( we see his family all the time and have been on holiday with them, yet he is so unwelcoming of my parents come to the house and make them feel uncomfortable and also makes my friends uncomfortable, he is so miserable when he enters the house)
Everything is on his terms, what time the baby goes to bed, where we go on holiday, what programmes we watch ( doesn't even like me watching a programme in the other room than him) doesn't like the music I listen to, doesn't let me put the window down in the car, if I'm having a bath in peace and have locked the door, he unlocks the door and let's my daughter walk in.
He wakes me up at 8:00 every weekend even though I stressful work hours and Says 'wake up mumma we need to make most of the day'
He's disapproving of my freinds yet he can go to the pub 3 nights a week
I'm mea to be marrying this guy in September.
Fuck my life.