Did you have doubts about DP when you first met but then fell in love?

[flowerpot7]

Just wondering if anyone has and stories about having doubts when they met their DP/DH but then fell in love with them and everything worked out great?

I do. I almost missed him. Liked him, but wasn't attracted to him. Thought he had no interest in me either, except as a friend. Thought he was a rather tepid, unemotional person. We spent time with each other because of a shared interest.

Then one evening he threw his arms around me. Married him less than six months later. Twenty-three years ago

Not quite like this:

I once dated someone who made me feel uneasy. But he was perfect for me on paper and I'd been single for a while and my best friend, also my flatmate, liked him and egged me on just to go out with him once and then just to give him a try, and then ... and eventually, I gave in and went on a few of dates with him. The spark still wasn't there for me and I let things fizzle out.

Anyway, it all ended in an utter disaster. He started making up crazy stories "just to see" if I'd worry about him and he ended up camping in front of my house door. At which point friend/flatmate was obviously also thoroughly creeped out and utterly sorry she'd urged me to date him.

I learned to always trust my gut feeling from that one.

Yes. He was a friend when I came out of an awful relationship. I fancied him but I wasn’t in the place for a relationship. Until I realised I couldn’t be without him. Together 15 years going on 16, own a house together and 1dc. X

Yes. I thought he was a lovely person but he was recently separated from his wife (her choice to leave) and divorce proceedings hadn’t started yet. I also wasn’t convinced he was over her. I was super wary because of a previous relationship which was quite emotionally abusive and also involved an ex who was never quite out of the picture.

We took it slowly, got together officially a few months after we met. That was 13 years ago and we are married with two children. He’s one of the best people I have ever known and I am so so glad I didn’t write him off at the start because of his circumstances.

Nope, knew it straight away.

What sort of doubts are you having? If it's not sure you fancy him doubts then it could be a slow burn but if it's red flag doubts then listen to your gut.

I was always totally besotted with DH but we were 16&17 when we first got together and I hadn’t really had any previous boyfriends so I was a bit unsure what I was feeling. 13 yrs on and two DC there is no doubt in my mind

Ah see with me the love came first but doubts were definitely there. Plus I was with someone else. Ex was very sensible, phd student, serious and intellectual. New man was 6 years younger and a party boy. I developed massive feelings so ended it with ex. Thought I was making a huge mistake. Had no illusions that new man was a long term thing. But lo and behold, here we are 6 years later, one house, a baby and a puppy down the line and we couldn’t be happier. He still likes a party once in a while but is normally too tired! All I can say is that I think I got off lucky. And the zing was there. If the zing isn’t there...I’d worry.

yep, no attraction to DP when I first met him. I very much had a “type” and he wasn’t that type so I wrote him off. Was also worried that he seemed a bit “keen”.

Didn’t see him for a few years and then got persuaded into going on a date with him even though I was adamant there was no point. Best decision I ever made! Turns out my “type” nonsense was just that and DP is a perfect fit for me :-)