I feel quite disrespected

[crispysausagerolls]

Had lunch with MIL and DH yesterday. DH had made it clear beforehand he was not eating as he would have to go back to work. All fine. However, this was his manner of leaving:

Without having said a word beforehand about booking an Uber, he simply stood up to leave and said, without looking back, goodbye. He then walked off and got into a car. What the hell is that? Our son was waving at him and got ignored, I didn’t even get eye contact, let alone a kiss / and it was even worse as it was in front of MIL who we have only just stopped being NC with and now I think our marriage looks appalling (it really isn’t!)

Not really sure what I want out of posting, I guess just to see if anyone else would’ve been bothered by this! Why not say he was booking an Uber or leaving soon? Why not say an actual goodbye?!

Christ that's bloody rude.

What did he say when you asked him about it??

It's just a lack of manners. Blame MIL. It's her fault. She should have taught him better.

Rude, yes - but if this is his mother who you’ve only just started talking to and seeing again, could he have been feeling very strange about the meeting and just needed to get out of there as soon as possible?

Best talk to him about it - we could speculate all day long but if it’s behabiiur that’s out of character for him then it would suggest there’s more to it than just plain rudeness.

He said he’s sorry and has a lot on his plate at work. But the damage is done now - honestly I don’t know why I care because our marriage IS good but I obviously want it to appear as it is; not like we can’t stand one another or he doesn’t care!

And also, even if MIL weren’t there, it made me feel about the size of a shrivelled grape.

Is he usually pretty abrupt? Could he have been having to face a difficult situation at work?
What was the context about agreeing to have lunch with someone but knowing you were on your way to work? Seems an odd decision.

We had an appt for our baby he had to come to, so he said he would join us afterwards for a bit as we were meeting his mother.

He can be a little cold at times i suppose.