Relationship is bad. 20yrs together.

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I have long-term serious mental illness. Been together almost 20yrs, married 14, and have 2 lovely kids. Husband used to be a stress head and it put strain on things, but he changed with time, effort and medication. However, his job has become v stressful, one of our kids is disabled, my illness, plus he came back off his meds. He's not very nice to live with. He feels overwhelmed. I feel he resents me. He says he does not. We both still love each other. I don't really have anyone to talk to rn. I spent all last night crying. I am exhausted and so is he. We've been through some really hard times and great times too, but I can't remember when we enjoyed each other. I am so very sad.

Bump

Please

Ffs, cheers

If you love each other you can get through anything x

Thanks for replying. I don't know that love is always enough.

I’m not sure I can help really but I have read your message, it sounds so hard for you. Maybe if you spoke to your GP?

I don't have much experience in this but I did have a boyfriend with depression and he would go home to be on his own (we didn't live together) he said he needed his own space, but that may be difficult if you have kids, do you think a break is good,

Thanks all. Appreciate the replies. Gp is a good idea. I see a psych but our gp is ace
. We'll be away from each other next week so might help?

Why did your DH come off his meds?

Gp encouraged him.

No advice just sympathy, I'm in a similar situation, I've been with my husband 18 years, we've had a lot of issues which we are currently working through. Would counselling be an option for you both?

Thanks chocolate. Commiserations to you. I have considered it. Not sure what he'd think of it. I see a therapist anyway. It's NHS and I can't go with him. It'd need to be private. We live far from civilisation so it's v poor service here