How to forget about him

[Jenmarie85]

I’ve been seeing my 14 year old’s dad for 16 years on and off. The last 2 years we’ve been getting on perfectly until he randomly cut me off in April. He changed his number without telling me and never contacted me or our daughter. I’m struggling to get him massively. I found out he’s got a new girlfriend and now I have to keep seeing pictures of them all over Facebook all happy with his new girl friend and her son and I hate it. I feel like I’m never going to get over him. This isn’t the first time he’s done this to me but it a million percent it will be the last. I just literally can’t stop thinking about him. Our daughter has decided that she doesn’t want to see him anymore anyway. She says if he can treat us like that then he’s not worth knowing but I’m not dealing with it too good at all. How can I get over him?? 😭

Struggling to get over him**

Sorry OP. He sounds dreadful.

Block him and her on social media. Get out and about. Honestly, there’s no easy solutions to this - you need time to get over it, and keeping busy and avoiding them will help.

Jeez - I’m sorry this has happened to you but I think he’s done you a favour. Imagine walking out on your partner AND daughter. He doesn’t sound like a good man. Your daughter is right - you don’t want someone like him in your life. How disgusting. I reckon once you’re over the initial shock / grief, you’ll look back and be relieved he’s gone. Please don’t take him back when this OW doesn’t work out. Best of luck

What an utter dick! My friends' dad did that and they were devastated as children so some of your daughter's reaction is going to be her way of dealing with it rather than how she really feels.

How are you seeing them all over Facebook? Block them so you won't.

Your daughter is right though - neither of you need a man like that in your lives.

You have to be really strict with yourself and block him on everything. Facebook etc only shows the good stuff and you are torturing yourself if you keep looking. Go no contact and try yo regain some control. No contact will give you breathing space and it will let time do it's thing which is basically healing. I really believe that time heals almost all wounds but it needs to go alongside no contact in order for it to work properly.

When you say you've been on and off, do you mean you've split up for months at a time? Years at a time?

Either way, it's time to put your child first and not go back to such an unstable relationship. X