Message to ex re being amicable?

[notenoughbottletonight]

BF split up with me on sat, I'm completely devastated as he was my best friend before we got together, even if he was controlling then, and it just feels like I've lost a lot. In most circumstances I'd never see him again but half of his employees are my friends that I met through his place of work and where he works is somewhere that inevitably I will end up going to before the next week is out. What can I send as a message to just say we need to be amicable/polite to each other? Need help please!

You need time out from him. Don't send a message of any kind. It seems like you're looking for a reason to contact him, which is a trap we can so easily fall into.

why will you end up there so quickly?

Can't say what the place is as it'll possibly identify me too much but it is somewhere that I go often. Yes maybe I should just leave it, just that I had to go there earlier and it was awkward as we just ignored each other.

Why did he split up with you?

I ask because the reason maybe that he is or isn't mad at you.
He should not want atmosphere when he sees you either unless he's an attentionseeker which means no text with help.

Do you really HAVE to go there or are you choosing to?

There's no compulsory requirement for me to go there no but I won't miss out on socialising with my friends over a break up. Especially given he asked me to choose between him and them a few months back. Reason for the split - a bit of it my kids, he's older and has none, believes I will cheat on him and doesn't trust me - these are issues from a relationship roughly 15 years ago and jealousy from him during our friendship where he wouldn't commit to me but would kick off if so much as looked at another man. Believed I drank too much, yes I would go out on my fortnightly weekend off and have a few, admittedly sometimes I was a bit drunk but never not able to stand or communicate, more happy and enjoying myself. He drinks nearly every day.