Sexual pestering

[madcatladyforever]

How do mumsnetters cope with sexual pestering from your other half.
I think my exH who I'm now divorced from was extreme but it wore me down so badly I really didn't want to be with him anymore and it killed any romance stone dead.
I'd stay up until one in the morning to avoid him on a working night and he'd be absolutely sound asleep when I went to bed only to be awake immediately I quietly crept into bed and pestering me for sex, then wanting to talk about the lack of sex at that time of the night endlessly.
All this throughout the period I was really ill, struggling to keep going at work, sometimes unable to move due to severe spinal problems and arhtritis.
I really do not feel I want to have any more relationships, are all men so selfish and sex crazed?

No, they're not.

I feel for you, I went through the same with an ex and it still affects my relationship with my husband today. I avoid sex even though I enjoy it with him. But my ex turned it into a chore so it's put me off.

My husband is very patient, luckily.

No.
I'd say your ex was particularly bad. I haven't found most men to be like that tbh.

That's not pestering, that's harassment.

Most men are respectful of boundaries and can accept that no means no without expecting you to justify it.

You dealt with it in the only way that works; leave.

All men aren't like this. Just the ones who want to have sex with an unwilling partner. So no one who should be anywhere near a woman.