Yesterday I came home to H announcing he was leaving the nursing course he has wanted to o for years (he's 47) because he isn't paid enough. He does it through OU whilst working as band 2 on ICU (lucky as most people get a bursary if anything). He's decided he would rather look for a band 3 post than do the final 14 months where after qualification he will jump to band 5. I was shocked, not least because this isn't a reason (it equates to about £10 a week more) and two days earlier he was chatting to a friend about his much he was enjoying it and couldn't wait to qualify. And to me about how well it's going and how people positively view him as a student nurse. I asked if it was because he was worried about his latest assignment. No. He has historically left them all to the last minute and then been angry when he only passed by the skin of his teeth (one fail). He then said he's felt this way for ages. When I asked why he hadn't discussed it earlier or had he spoken to his tutor he said it was nothing to do with us. This angered me not least because I have supported him all along, and things deteriorated from there. He accused me of not being supportive when he was stressed yet I suggested the other week he may be mildly depressed/stressed as he was always tired, not eating, low mood etc but I was dismissed at the time. It ended in him being insulting and verbally nasty. He's having counselling at the moment and it seems his mood swings and unpredictability are getting worse but this rash and illogical decision is out of the blue. Add that to borrowing money for who knows what and not telling me and I'm concerned. We did have couples counselling once where he lied about things and ultimately walked out when challenged so I'm not even convinced he will be honest with the current counsellor. Any thoughts on what's going on here welcomed!!!