Long story, try to be brief.
Met a lovely guy, J, a few years ago, through mutual interests.
All going well, or so I though, then dumped me after 3 months.
Cock and ball story about having bad health/ heart problems.(his, allegedly and untrue) Relationship had been very passionate.
Met someone else, who turned out to be a narc, took me nearly 3 years to realise but, moving on, 18mths later (after being used as human spaghetti )have my home, dog, horse, fabulous supportive friends, family and neighbours.Just over a year ago bumped into J who dumped me.
He was very supportive, always helping me out, shoulder to cry on etc. We have so much in common, much laughter and quick wit.Such a relief to be myself after walking on eggshells for so long.
Cut to the chase.
Wanted us to try again, taking things slowly this time, he's never stopped thinking about me, I was too good to be true, was everything he'd ever wanted in a woman.His posh totty.
But, he still has his, supposed, ex in tow, keeping her sweet as she owes him money he loaned/gave her.Needs his cash back, relationship is over, apparently but she want him back.
Anyway, we rarely go out in case we're seen and she finds out, withholds his money and, listen to this, "will burn my house down!"
Also told me not to use my real name if we bumped into anyone he knows, as he's told her much about me. Errr, sod that, am not going to lie.
Said he's making 3 people unhappy, excuse me?He's having his cake and eating it.I doubt the OW even knows their relationship is over.
So, I called him earlier, not playing his games anymore.Binned him, as my daughter would say.
A mutual friend, who's known him much longer than me, said a while back that he always thought J was a 'bit of a wuss' I can see that now.
Feel a mixture of sadness and relief.I will never let another man treat me badly, nor should any woman.Shall probably sob into my boyfriend pillow tonight.