I don’t want a pity fuck

[OKMorty]

I’ve just broken up with my boyfriend of a year.

Started off amazing. Then the sex petered out. Tried to salvage, suggested therepy but he didn’t think we had a problem other than mismatched sex drives.

So I realised this relationship was incompatible, was destroying my sanity and I ended it.

He was devastated and tried to “woo me back” with big romantic gestures etc. But everytime, the date ends with me feeling frustrated that he hasn’t made a move and in desperation I do. Then I feel like it’s the prelude to a pity fuck.

This relationship is doomed isn’t it

It doesn't sound good for you. Don't destroy your sanity or feel desperate - it is unlikely that things will change, as he has told you he doesn't see that there is a problem! Best wishes.

A relationship is supposed to improve your life and make you feel good/happy.

If this one isn't, then I'd suggest you were right to end it the first time.

Stop falling for the romantic gestures and cut contact.

On the other side of the coin he shouldn’t feel he has to fuck you to salvage a relationship. You’re mismatched sexually so breaking up
is for the best.

Yes.
There is no cure for mismatched sex drives.

Neither is at fault here. You aren’t compatible. You were right to end it.

End it and keep it that way. I wasted two years of my life in this situation. If he had been open to discussing it that would have been something but he seemed to think because it wasn't a problem for him that was all that mattered.

Dump.