I have been going over and over a couple of events that happened Friday and they are still on my mind. I have read about how women feel impostor syndrome in the workplace or how we don't support each other but working on a male dominated field, I never had to deal with this attitudes before, I am only used to the mansplaining and condescending guys who are my junior.
Event #1. "Complaint" from my project manager my direct/technical manager about me been "overwhelming for the client". I swear I thought someone understood me asking about their hobbies as sexual harrasment since I hardly talk to any clients but at the client appreciation party that I asked the tech guy I usually work with (employed by client) if he had any hobbies/played sports. I really don't have any more contact with clients.
When asked to clarify what actions were overwhelming it came to a call from our engineering team (of what I am the lead) to the client's engineering team where the client wanted to do something and I gave them 2 different solutions. That's my job. And I was a bit technical, but I was talking with their engineers! So apparently that's the complaint
. Luckily enough my direct manager said that she didn't understand this complaint and was going to inquiry further since she thinks I did the right thing offering solutions. But it is the first time I have been complained about and put in such an uncomfortable situation having to explain to management what I did.
Event #2. I met with some expats. Only two of us were on time, so I had some time to talk to a man who told me a friend of his who was coming was on the same field as I am. When she arrived I tried to initiate conversation with her and she was completely dismissive. She told me she worked on sales at an IT company but she would not explain more because I would not understand (after I had told her I was also an engineer). Later that afternoon she is explaining everything about her job to a guy who works in real state 
do when I told her "oh, so that's what you do, you are not actually a government spy who couldn't talk about it" she again was dismissive telling me how "people" don't know enough to understand (the company does something pretty trivial in terms of technology and she is in sales anyway so you would think she has a pitch for not engineers in order to sell anyway).
Not really sure why I am posting other than I am shocked and not used to people putting me down for no reason.