Hi all,
I need some advice on my current situation please.
I have been with my SO for almost 7 years. We also have a 5 y/o DS. Since I got pregnant we have lived together in his mothers house. During my pregnancy he broke up with me at least twice and would sometimes go days without speaking to me. About 1.5 years ago he broke up with me and I moved back to my mums (about 4 mins away). We very easily co-parented DS and continued to spend a lot of time together. He started seeing someone from work very soon after the split but was incredibly shady about her. After 8 or so months we decided to try again and I moved back in, only for him to change his mind completely and continue seeing the other woman on weekends. The living situation got volatile and ended abruptly in December when he attacked me and I called the police. I very much doubt he feels remorse for what he has done and even tried to make me feel bad for having him arrested as it could affect his career. Since then we have tried to work things out and up until recently it has been very pleasant. During our time apart last year, I too started seeing someone else, he found out and couldn't deal with the fact I could move on so quickly (hypocrite much?)
He has vocalised that he doesn't trust me going out as he feels like I can meet other people and it lead to something greater. Please note that I have never been unfaithful, so goodness knows where this mistrust of me going out has come from. I went out at the weekend to watch my cousin do some stand up comedy and since then he hasn't spoken a word to me, only sent me a message to say he has told me how he feels about when I go out so if he is acting funny with me then I know why. At the moment I feel stuck, I'm torn between feeling angry for him having the cheek to act so rude and childish and hurt because he feels it is ok to treat me this way. But I also think, how can I put up with this for the supposed rest of my life. He refuses to do any sort of couples therapy and I know I may be being foolish in thinking this could ever possibly work. I'm worried about things ending more in terms of DS. He has previously stated several times that he will take me to court and pay people to lie about my character (That I do drugs in front of DS and would also pay men to say the have had relations with me in front of DS). I would easily have shared parental responsibility, however feel like he would be difficult. He has and earns a lot more money than I do and has also said he would throw as much money as he could in order to win full custody of his son.
Any advice welcome. Thanks