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Gluten for punishment

10 replies

Clairebear245 · 01/07/2019 20:40

Hello everyone. My first post on here. I just feel a little desperate tonight. Hoping your advice might help. When I was 15 I fell in love with a boy, we dated for 6 weeks, he dumped me and crushed me completely. We continued sleeping together on and off for 3 years, until we both settled down with other people. Now I am 37, single mum and he is 42 single dad. He is my best friends husbands best mate. We had a night together last week after a wedding, and I have heard nothing from him. I feel crushed yet again! I know he only wants sex but I love him so much. How can I get away from this? I have resisted his advances for a year but I gave in and now I'm the one upset. I have tried internet dating for 3 years now but cant find anyone to take my mind off it or move forward with.

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Whatdoyoumeme · 01/07/2019 23:20

Genuinely thought this was going to be about you eating bread despite a gluten intolerance. Why was he sleeping with you at 15 if he was 20? Also, stop wasting your life on someone who won't even txt you back.

HappyNOTdriving · 01/07/2019 23:56

But the person you love want etc doesn't exist. The man who is treating you like this is the only version of this person.

The one you want and the one in your head when you think about being with him is nothing like the actual person!

Think of him as a lemon that looks like an orange (or a turd that looks like chocolate) it looks lovely and you want it really badly but then you take a bite and the taste is nothing like what you had been waiting for, how many times are you going to take a bite before you learn he tastes bad?

nocoolnamesleft · 01/07/2019 23:59

He's been using you, on and off, since you were 15. You're worth more than that.

EatsFartsAndLeaves · 02/07/2019 00:02

So he was 20 when you were 15?

newmomof1 · 02/07/2019 00:32

He used you 22 years ago and now he's doing it again - you're worth more than that.

managedmis · 02/07/2019 00:33

Sorry

As you were

OneInAMillionYou · 02/07/2019 00:39

Best typo ever.

Had visions of you being forced to eat bread and rice!

Bunnylady53 · 02/07/2019 00:41

I had a little smile at “ gluten”.
There are decent guys out there OP - don’t waste anymore of your time on someone who doesn’t value you

TransFannyUltrasound · 02/07/2019 00:50

I thought this was going to be about a badly-behaved coeliac. Definitely sprinkle flour all over his kitchen.

What a git though. You must move on from him; he’s clearly not for you.

mumofwantwomany · 02/07/2019 00:54

if you had sex when you were 15 and he was 20, then technically he's a paedophile and a rapist.
people like this will not change - you know yourself that he only wants you for sex.
are you sure you love him? what do you love about him?

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