What would you do?

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Please no horrible messages, I'm just trying to do the right thing.

I'm 22, almost 23.

I've been with my partner almost 5 years. We have been renovating houses together since I was 18. The first was his and the 2 next houses was ours. I'm so drained I can't explain. I know for a fact once this house has been renovated he will want to move onto the next property. I don't think I'd cope, but he some how will talk me round to it. I know I need to be more firm but he's so overwhelming.

I was in a relationship with someone else from 14-18 and after 3 months of being single, fell for my current partner.

We are engaged and have been trying for a baby the last 2 years, I've had consecutive miscarriages, and this could have a contributing factor towards why I feel like this. Current partner tried his best but wasn't the most supportive.

I've never been single and it's dooming on me I missed out on my fun years. I'm due to get married next year and I'm not sure why but I'm getting cold feet.

I'm feeling like I just want to be on my own but I'm not 100%. I just am craving a simple life again, to date people, to have fun! I can't remember the last time we generally enjoyed each other's company.

I love this man, but I find myself thinking about my past relationship ( not craving that person, but the fun exciting times! )

I feel like every aspect of my life is work.
I work 40+ hours a week ( which I know is normal) but I then commute 2 hours.

I come home to a house being renovated, as soon as I sit down he moans at me ( he's just got sooo much energy).

There's so many pros to him and so many cons. I'm not sure I actually feel anything for him anymore or if I'm just with him for a easy life? Is this normal? Or am I in the wrong relationship.

I couldn't bear to hurt him and tell him how I'm feeling for a normal feeling. Please can someone help😞

I've told him I would like to put baby trying on hold and he's okay with that! So that's one less thing to worry about.

Please please please someone help me!!! Did anyone else feel like this and stayed and felt happy?!

"I just am craving a simple life again, to date people, to have fun! I can't remember the last time we generally enjoyed each other's company."

I think feeling fed up with life from time to time is common but the above statement tells me the relationship has run it's natural course for you at least. You have never really been single and I think it is good for everyone to spend some time as an independent adult before settling down. You have so much time ahead of you, don't settle for second best.

You're so young to be having all that responsibility.

You should be having fun and travelling and dating and making new friends...

You're only a few years older than my dd and I wouldn't want her feeling like this.

I also married young and I do regret it. I don't regret dd which I wouldn't have if I hadn't but I do think it was a mistake.

I didn't know myself nearly well enough and if you don't know yourself you can't assess potential life partners properly.

Leave, cut all those ties, give yourself some freedom and fun.

What Graphista wrote.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?

It seems also that you have always spent very little time, if any on your own since you were 14, and I think you need to find out who you exactly are for your own self. Indeed find out who you are and spend time on your own. End this current relationship and do not settle for this.

Do not get married. You are still so young. It sounds as if you need to be single for a bit and just enjoy life, work out who you are. Oh yes, and have some fun!

He sounds like a bit of a misery guts really. Has has a go at you for sitting down when you get home from work? Fuck that!

I had my first relationship 17-22 then shortly after fell into my next relationship (6 months later) which was 3 years 22-25/26. This ended and again, 6 months later I met my ex.... Who I was with for 8 years so 26-34.

I've been single now for 2 years in August, the longest in my adult life..... I feel like I should have been doing all of this in my 20s. I have had the most incredible journey of self discovery to the point where I am truly happy being single. It helps me to make better decisions as well.

I have all sorts of responsibility now which stops me from dropping everything and flying round the world, which. Is ultimately what I really want to do (not impossible but a logistical nightmare) 😂....

What I'm trying to say here is you're only young once, this all sounds like so much for someone so young (I'm not trying to be condescending here). But your life looks like it has got to next level adulting before you've really had a chance to live.....

Get out there and embrace life, have fun, do something for yourself - do you have things you really want to do and see have you Made a list of things you want to do/achieve this year. Set some goals, no matter how silly they are..... It will make you hungry for things and make you want get out there and do more... I started off with 3 things at the beginning of the year and it's grown considerably.

NEVER ever settle for anything.......🌈🌄

Gosh, my son is 20 and has had a couple of girlfriends of a few months each and is enjoying going out with his friends, at university, having fun and generally just deciding what he wants out of life for himself.

I'd be so sad for him if he were in your position.

If you were my daughter, I'd be telling you to get out that relationship and have yourself some fun. You're doing the right thing by holding off on ttc. If you're already having doubts about this life it's only going to get worse.

Is this how you want your life to be for the next 70 years?

Spend some time on your own, make friends, date and decide what you want out of life

You don't want to be in this relationship. You're very young and there's years ahead of you to find your life partner. Maybe take some time to get to know yourself and have some adventures and fun to look back on in years to come!
You get one life. It seems as though you already recognise that this isn't how you want to spend it.

Your inner voice is telling you loud and clear that your current state of affairs is not making you happy. I would listen to it and I would definitely stop catering to the wants of everyone else.