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This is complicated

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Anxietyqueen1987 · 01/07/2019 07:47

Hi, I'm new here - I would like some help and advice but my situation is pretty complicated so please bear with me.

First and formost I am a mum to four year old daughter and she is my world but when I was pregnant with her I developed Perinatal OCD and terrible intrusive thoughts all of which were about my unborn baby and honestly it was the worst time in my life - I still find it really hard to admit that as it should be a time of excitement and happiness, I dont even really know how I made it through it. Anyway because of this awful anxiety disorder I started drinking very heavily after my daughter was born (not during) and its something that i have now become dependent on I think - although I have cut down a lot and will only drink when my daughter is asleep, but I still feel guilty about this and would like to stop altogether but I am finding it very difficult. I am also in a relationship (with my DD dad) but it can only be described at Toxic - he's emotionally abusive towards me and has even thrown things at me/pushed me in arguments, he also loves to argue but then turns it around on me like everything is my fault. And lastly, my DD was diagnosed with Autism a couple of years ago and she is currently non - verbal and has major sleep and sensory issues. I guess I am just overwhelmed by everything! I don't eve feel I have scratched the surface but any kind words would be appreciated. Thanks for reading

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HomeTheatreSystem · 01/07/2019 08:22

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate, not least of which is the toxic relationship with someone who, instead of supporting you and caring for you, is abusing you mentally and physically. You need to get rid of him ASAP. What is your housing situation? Do you live together?

You might find that once this awful man is out of your life that you don't feel the urge to drink quite as much as you are currently: alcohol has depressive side effects and is not going to be helping your frame of mind. Once this man is out of your life you will feel stronger and happier. Please also contact Women's Aid for help and advice.

pog100 · 01/07/2019 08:30

Same advice here. Remove yourself from the malign influence of a partner who is the opposite of what he should be. Stop drinking, with the outside help, and start to enjoy life again.
It's not easy but you KNOW your life will be so much better. Good luck.

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