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How to deal with suddenly sleazy boss

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thisrecordinghasended80 · 30/06/2019 22:43

Couple of weeks ago was at an industry awards night and on a table with colleagues including my line manager. There was a lot of alcohol flowing and towards the end of the night ended up sat with just him for a while and out of nowhere he asked me what my bra size was and said ’they’re great’. I was quite drunk too but know I was flustered/embarrassed by this and said something like ’no they’re not’ and he then kept saying they were whilst staring at them (they’re on the larger size but not exactly unusually so). I didn’t tell him the size and moved away soon after and since he’s been normal but still feeling a bit weird about it.

We normally get on fine but never flirty or anything like that he has always been professional and he is married.

I don’t really want to complain about him as would make things very awkward and in most ways he’s a really good boss but don’t know why he would suddenly come out with this. Obviously he was pissed but still seems an odd thing to say out of nowhere?

Would you just try and forget it in this situation?

OP posts:
billy1966 · 30/06/2019 23:01

I wouldn't take any action other than note his behaviour and not put myself in a position again with him where you are pissed.

Some men can be sleazy with drink but would never say a word to you sober.

If it was me I would definitely be on guard, pretend it hasn't happened, not put myself in a position like that again.

However, if he makes any attempt to be sleazy sober again, I wouldn't hesitate to tell him he has already been deeply inappropriate, you gave him the benefit of the doubt but he is making you feel very uncomfortable.
HR and a complaint would be your next step.

thisrecordinghasended80 · 01/07/2019 19:11

Thanks Billy that's what I am planning to do I think

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Thatsalovelycuppatea · 01/07/2019 19:58

Don't be alone next time he's drunk. Be on your guard at work too.

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