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Online dating - How many different guys do you chat to at the same time?

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Stillstrawberrywater · 30/06/2019 21:41

So I joined the weird world of online dating this week. I've heard so many scare stories but I thought I'd give it a go. I've got quite a few emails from different guys, and i have got chatting quite regularly to three guys the last few days. Is chatting to different guys at the same time the norm, or should I focus on one guy at a time? If you're on online dating, how many guys do you chat to at the same time?

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toffeeapple123 · 30/06/2019 21:46

As many as possible! Don't put all your eggs in one basket, especially not with online dating. I'm chatting to around four guys at the mo, although I'm not interested in any tbh.

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Stillstrawberrywater · 30/06/2019 22:10

Why are you chatting to them if you're not interested?

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toffeeapple123 · 30/06/2019 22:51

Because I think maybe I need to give them a chance. After all how can you know if you’re interested unless you meet, right?

Nothavingfunrightnow · 30/06/2019 23:02

I've thrown my net pretty wide and am on the "sex positive" route. I've found I'm talking to too many, though. So, I'm cutting back to 3 or 4, on the basis that I'm v busy with work and home and am not looking for a relationship.

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Stillstrawberrywater · 30/06/2019 23:27

Yeah I guess that makes sense toffee worth persevering to go on a date and actually meet. It's sometimes difficult to find chemistry through texting.

What's a sex positive route nothaving?

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LilouBlue · 01/07/2019 07:41

When I was doing it, I liked to talk to about 4 or 5, keeping my options open! My boyfriend was one of two that I really liked, but felt the other one was a more likely prospect for various reasons, even though he lived further away and had less availability etc. That one ghosted me after I told him I'd have to cancel our first date because I was (genuinely) ill. I realise it may have sounded like an excuse but it really wasn't. Boyfriend waited for me, when we finally met it was the best first date ever and we are inseparable now!

Stillsttawberrywater I'm guessing Nothavingfunrightnow means sex positive as in not subscribing to the belief that a woman can be "slutty". Talking to multiple people, sex on the first date if it feels right etc. A very good way to go, very freeing!

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