First day alone, DCs with ex-H

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This is the first full day the DCs are with ex-H. It’s all very recent, we separated last Thursday morning and told the DCs in the afternoon.

Is it weird that I find today easier than being on my own with DCs? I am sure if they were gone for longer I would start to really miss them, but looking after them alone makes me feel the loss of ex-H much more. I keep thinking of how much fun it was to do things as a family, how much more difficult it is to cope on my own, etc.

Hi OP. Its literally the first day so you are entitled to feel that way, its perfectly normal. It isn't easy suddenly finding yourself on your own with children. Dealing with children on your own, and especially when you're going through a load of emotional shit from your recent split, is HARD.
Make the absolute most of your time to yourself so you are better equipped when the children come back.
Yes it is hard coming to terms with not doing things as a family anymore but it really does get easier. I'm 2 years in now and its just second nature now and I really don't give it a second thought now at all.

It's an adjustment and a huge one. You really need time on your own to digest what's been going on, it's hard to parent when you have the kids with you and your minds full. Xx

I imagine you were in need of a break! And that’s as it should be. Single parenting is tough at first. You need to find your stride and it may take a while but you’ll get there! Enjoy the breaks when you get them and look after yourself x

Ex-H and I have been friends for 35 years, in a relationship for 18 years. It’s such a huge adjustment.

As the first day of your new normal it will take some time to adjust. I was a single parent for near on ten years and I really needed the odd day just to recharge my batteries.

If you can try and plan some pamper days even just at home where you totally relax like a foot soak, face mask, manicure or pedicure.

Just ease into it and take every day in baby steps