Just fed up and Annoyed ! My marriage needs help kindly advice

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Hello all
I have been fed up of my husbands illness for around 3 years .He has a spinal disc prolapse and one of the very good doctors has told him to get hold of spinal injections and they would work for him .But my hubby fears to get them ( one of our friends who had a similar situation has got them and is already better ) ,Now when he gets into pain he asks me to press his legs and massage them , I have been doing this for the past 3 years every night , no matter how tired I am , no matter how irritated I am but I have reached a point where by I am fed up of caring for him and listing to his long talks about the illness where by the suregon has already given him a solution to get hold on but he is not ready . I feel so sorry for him and also me and angry .Shame on me that I am not supportive but i am fed up ! if he gets rid of this pain his life is much better and so ours !. He will not be in any pain and then will be able to play with the kid and go to work with a better state of mind. I am thinking of going on vacation with my kid for a months timeand leaving him because he wont listen and all we are doing for 3 years is talking about his pain which can be managed as told by doctors .Please pour in some suggestions .Should my attitude change or he should listen to what his doctor has to offer .
thanks

bumping for you op. Hopefully somebody will help

I think it would be a good idea to go away and so then he can see what a struggle it is on his own. That way he would seek a solution and might go towards the treatment.

I do feel sorry for you. Illness takes its toll on the loved ones of the patient, both my husband and I have had some problems in recent years so I understand.

I know somebody with a problem like that your husband who has had spinal injections and the relief is amazing. I wish you could persuade him to have that, it would make such a difference. It's understandable not to like the idea of a needle going in there but he probably won't feel anything because the area will be numbed.

Tell him you cannot take much more and insist, then take yourself off for a weekend.

Good luck .

God OP, sorry for your husband but very very sorry for you.

3years.

I certainly wouldn't have had your patience.

He's ignoring his doctor's advice which has had a massive consequence for you and your children.

As above advices, I'd bugger off and take a break.

Enough is enough.🙄