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Last straw now

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Redfronts · 29/06/2019 21:20

So I have my uncle dying of cancer 4 weeks to live, my 98 yr old grandmother in the same hospital also about to pass and my step father just been given a life threatening condition.

When my partners dad died 9 years ago I did everything to support him. Yet he’s not reciprocating and being very moody. I asked him if it was triggering the death of his dad he said yes. Which I totally get but I can’t be emotionally supporting him with all this going on. When I try to explain to him everything that’s going on with various situations he gets very defensive and doesn’t want to hear it. I feel like he’s making it all about him instead of supporting me. I’m having to deal with our three kids instead of him stepping up and taking charge.

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loveyoutothemoon · 30/06/2019 11:25

I'm sorry about what you're going through. I would concentrate on your uncle and grandmother, and then think about if you can put up with your partners behaviour.

PicsInRed · 30/06/2019 11:31

He's not "triggered", he's "arsehole".

Think for a minute how you would be if roles were reversed - you'd step up for him, remembering how difficult it was for you when you went through the same thing, wouldn't you?

Look at him. Sulk, sulk, sulk and got you falling over yourself to emotionally care for him at such an emotionally terrible time for you. Vom. 🤮 He's awful

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