The crazy ex bingo card

[ncdforthistoday]

Earlier today I got a message on Facebook from a very distressed woman who had just broken up with my stbxh. He'd spun her a pitiful tale about how he'd been treated so badly by his "crazy, mentally unstable, controlling wife" (me) 🙄 I left him because the EA gave me a nervous breakdown. This poor woman had finally twigged what he was like and left him after a lot of upset. (I'm glad for her it didn't cause as much harm as it did me)

I've been OLD for a few months and I'm meeting so many men with a "crazy ex" that you'd think every woman on the planet was a dangerous maniac

I've always thought it was a red flag when men slag off their ex and claim they are mad and it makes me run a mile.

I just wondered what else is on the crazy ex bingo card along with mad, controlling, nagging etc and what the craziest thing anyone's ever said about you (if anything) is.

I think the highlight for me was that apparently I murdered my first husband.....

I forgot to add people claiming their ex won't let them see their kids

I'd say a lot comes down to how people describe their ex and their behaviour. There is, for instance, no shortage of women on mumsnet saying their ex was abusive as well. Sometimes, an ex (male or female) was abusive. Sometimes, the issue is with the person talking about their "crazy ex".

Personally, I think that if the description of what happened to someone is credible, and if the way they talk about it is emotionally intelligent, and recognises that it takes two people to create a relationship dynamic, then having a problematic ex isn't - of itself - a red flag (hell, otherwise nobody would ever date anyone who has escaped an abusive relationship).

But, if the way they talk about their ex fails to recognise the part they themselves played in the dynamic, or uses degrading terms to talk about the ex, then that's an indicator of a likely problem.

I've learnt the hard way that 9/10 times a guy says he has a crazy ex or she made his life hell. Or anything like that, he made her that way.

The best lie I heard about myself. I'm crazy, need help and I ruined his son's life

From the man who lied to me for months, swore on his kids life that he was separated from his wife. That he loved me.

So when an argument blew up over trust I asked his wife. That's apparently why I'm the crazy one and ruined his sons life. (They are still happily together) but yep I'm crazy ha

According to many I'm a crazy life-ruining ex. At a great height of 5ft I was apparently the physically abusive one in my marriage to a 6ft3 Viking of a man. It's insane what some people will believe.

Yeah I'm the crazy ex now apparently, well there's another one in front of me in the line now, I was the crazy ex that wouldn't leave him alone when all he wanted was to move on 🙄 I did develop some new and interesting ways to say fuck off though. Must be enough of us to start some sort of support group, or at least give a public warning!

Another crazy ex here.

I'm the crazy one who slept around (I didn't).
Who forced him to beat me up in front of DC because I was out being unfaithful (I was with a GF who had just had an MC).
Who made him a wage slave to single handedly support his ungrateful family (I had both FT and PT work, handled DC, house and life admin whilst he hobbied and extended work trips into weekends to have more 'necessary' down time for himself).

And bingo! - made it impossible to see DC (he couldn't bring himself to do a single visit for the first year despite a regular reminder)....

According to many I'm a crazy life-ruining ex. At a great height of 5ft I was apparently the physically abusive one in my marriage to a 6ft3 Viking of a man. It's insane what some people will believe.

I'm sure you aren't but it does happen. I know a big strong guy who was in that position with his cute blonde wife. She would brag he couldn't hit her back because everyone would believe her. He left her in the end and she attempted suicide, her last gasp attempt at controlling him.

I guess she could fairly be described as the crazy ex.

Another crazy ex here

My ex uses the fact I genuinely have MH issues to support his claims - and yet has never once considered or tried get residency of dd.

He's also at times claimed I'm greedy and trying to get him to pay unreasonable amounts of cm - fact was he wasn't paying any and pissing csa about with not responding

Also that I was neglecting dd to the point of starving her - again still made no attempt to get residency and when she came back from his because he was feeding her the exact same as her much younger siblings she would lose weight and usually either come back with a bug or develop one soon after coming home

Also that I've stopped him seeing her - even when we lived within walking distance of him he wouldn't get off his arse to see her or be hours late etc last several years I stopped bending over backwards and leaving myself short to facilitate dd seeing him - literally doing everything except put his leave request in for him - since I stopped she's lucky if her birthday card arrives on time

That I've "turned dd against him" - nah he was perfectly capable of doing that himself

He knows the truth whatever he tells others and so do I.

He has to live with how he's let dd down, and her as a result not really being interested in a relationship with him.

You reap what you sow

Well for a proper bingo you need 90. (used to work at bingo hall)

I locked him in the house and beat him up
The truth is I did lock him in-it was called locking my front door with a Yale lock it locked as you shut the front door-I never laid a finger on him-he was yelling at me from the other side of the room
I had an abortion against his wishes
I didn’t-I fell pregnant he demanded I abort and I refused I lost the baby and I rang him from my hospital bed-his answer?’why you phoning me?ring one of the other fathers’
His mate raped me-I’m telling the truth-he laughed and told me I was lying and he wouldn’t do that-knowing full well this bloke had form for hounding women and treating them like meat
Would gaslight me til I thought I was insane when I was around him
He messed with my mental health to the point I almost lost my life

But it’s ok-I’m the mental nutter-oddly so was his ex wife til I got in touch with her too-and found she was saner than I....

She's an unfit mother.
She was just after my money.
She is lazy
She has schizophrenia
She just got pregnant to trap me
She turned the kids against me

I'm going to kill myself and it will be all your fault, I will make sure everyone knows it is your fault too.

I'm another crazy ex, who tricked him into having a child as I told him I'd had my womb removed - actually he was telling me to go to the doctor as I didn't fall pregnant straight away

I agree with other posters, after a break up 90% of men claim their exes were CRAZY
90% of women claim their exes were ABUSIVE

I think people’s perceptions of their relationships turn sour so quickly after breaking up that both parties feel wronged and it manifests this way. I think there’s probably as much credibility to both accusations.

Don’t think I’ve been described as crazy. Controlling, nasty and aggressive seems to be the main complaint 🙄 the OW (now GF) is apparently scared of me because I’m so frightening. We’ve never spoken. He’s a dick and she’s welcome to him.

I’m dating and doubt ALL men’s descriptions of their exes.