Help me figure this out please!

[loserssaywhat]

Name changed for this!
I'll try to give as many details as possible without outing myself.
Been with my husband for 10 years, married for 7. We've always had a fantastic relationship, very supportive, open and affectionate.
Recently my husband started a new job and I've noticed a huge change in him. He's quiet, seems distant. Comes home in the evening, goes to bed and sleeps with his back to me all night. We haven't had sex in about 4 weeks. It could be work stress of course but I don't understand why he'd freeze me out.
I would love to be able to talk to him but I feel so disconnected to him, like the emotional bond is gone and I don't know if I have the energy to even try to fix it. We've been living like strangers for the last month. I feel like emotionally he's not really here.
Now that I've written all of that I'm not sure what my question is but I'd love to hear any insights.
We have a 6 year old dc.

Have you actually asked him and been rebuffed?

Frankly I don't really know how to bring it up. I feel like he's checked out emotionally and my reaction is to do the same!
I feel as though there's a brick wall up and neither of us are willing to to change it.
I have no idea why it's come to this and so confused, hurt and sad about it.
I'd feel silly writing him a letter but perhaps that's what I need to do. every time I try to begin talking I clam up.

If your relationship is open and supportive, then surely you have the platform to have a proper conversation with him?

Talk to him. Try again.

Starting a new job cab be extremely stressful. I nearly broke up with DP when I started my current job. The pressure was intense and affected every aspect of my life

@Justathinslice it always has been which is why this has really thrown me.

It possibly is work related but if he doesn't talk to me and freezes me out I end up speculating and thinking the worst.

Maybe at the weekend, go for a walk, or a drink or something, and just tell him you've noticed he's not been himself...?

Maybe he regrets the job?

Yea I'm really gonna have to have it out with him one way or another.
The longer this goes on the more i think I might as well end it.
I'm probably building it all in my head into something. I just hate the distance that's between us at the moment.

It’s something or someone at work It’s too much of a coincidence otherwise. You really need to talk rather than engaging in tit-for-tat coolness. If he’s messed up at work or being bullied or whatever, he’ll need your support.

'Have it out with him'. 'End it'. What on earth? You said you have a good relationship.

Why not say, 'Hey, how are you doing? How's the new job? Are you ok? I've noticed you've been a bit quieter than usual. Shall we talk about it?'

Why is it so hard to ask him? Am I missing something?

Are you afraid that he's met someone at work? Perhaps he has, but also likely he's having problems settling there maybe. And if you're not asking him he might be feeling that you don't care. Of course, talk to him. Tell him there's no pressure but you've noticed a change in him and you're worried.