Am I a nag

[Outdoormummy]

So my husband is always leaving things out rather than put them away . Yesterday our 4 year old was playing with a pair of garden pruners that he had left in the garden (for over a week). I was annoyed as it could have resulted in an accident (which thankfully it didn't ). My husband basically told me to get over myself and that no other wife would nag in that way and they are hardly that sharp ( yet sharp enough to cut branches )
Should I have let it go and just put them away or would other people also ask their husbands/ partners to be more careful in future ?
It then resulted in him doing the usual and pointing out all the things I've apparently done wrong in the past and How I am always out with my friends (maybe one a fortnight /month) and that I love to cause an argument . Any advise welcome

He is too lazy to put such things away and likely also thinks this is your job to do as well as the housework. He should have been more careful with such items and these should certainly not have been left outside for a week. So no you are not a nag either.

Why are you with him, apart from anything else he seems highly unpleasant towards you. He certainly seems to resent you go out with your friends and is reflecting his own self onto you. He is the one who likes to cause arguments. It’s probably one rule for him and quite another one for you.

He's a jackass! Of course leaving pruning shears out within reach of a child is irresponsible! If he's too immature and defensive to accept basic childproofing then you have a massive problem on hand-do you deal with his shit forever? I wouldn't!

Not overreacting here in saying I would explode

I care so little about so many things but oversight and carelessness causing my baby to have a possible accident would cause hell in my house

He sounds very defensive which isn't good. Leaving pruning shears within reach of a child is clearly irresponsible.

He's pulling the old reversal trick. You point out something you're not happy with and he will turn it around and make it about you doing something wrong. So basically he is ignoring what you say and what is reasonable and taking no responsibility

Honestly i don't know what you can do about this, my ex was just the same. However reasonable your request is the automatic reaction is to deny any responsibility and become defensive. Maybe he also had a child hood where his parents constantly blamed and criticised him

It's not nagging. It's reminding him how to be fucking adult. Don't let him make this about you.