Ended it and feeling shaky

[TheMistressQuickly]

Morning,

Won’t go into too much detail in case it’s outing but basically I’ve been unhappy with my oh’s behaviour and ended it yesterday. Basically, I feel that he is prioritising going out drinking and weekends away with the boys over me. He also doesn’t contact me unless I contact him.

We’ve finished before and he’s literally begged me back. Promised me he’ll change but he doesn’t. Basically I’ve had enough and don’t think he’ll change. I have very strong feelings for him but I cannot tolerate this anymore. It’s a deal breaker which I’ve told him before.

I guess I’m asking for tips on how to get through this and stay strong. Feeling sick this morning but I’ve been unhappy a lot of the time lately and had enough.

His reaction to me ending in was to change his fb status to single. We are both in our 30s.

Stay busy, list things you want to get done and do them. You are not defined by whether your OH contacts you or not.
When you feel a wobble go back and read your OP again to remind yourself of why you chose to end it.
Contact your close friends and family and keep talking to them, let them know your reasons and how you feel so that they can support your resolve.

Sorry it ended but you know why and that you were unhappy

Thank you. I will keep busy and I have two lovely children to focus on. (Not his)

Just feel sad because I’ve tried even when I shouldn’t have and I’ve just had enough really. I’m very soft and forgiving when it comes to men but I just think this is one situation that won’t get better. Been thru enough shit in recent years and not settling x

Well done for not putting up with his shit any longer.

and for later.
Stay strong.
Best wishes.

Much like @myidentitymycrisis said, the list of things you’d like to do, or are free to do now, is a really good idea. Put it somewhere really visible like the fridge or your wardrobe door. Places you can go, shows you can watch, languages to learn, books to read (I’m pretending my list was full of these, it’d be more like magazines and google translate but anywayyyy). It’s amazing who you can confide in btw. Maybe try reaching out to someone new for a chat...?
The bottom line is - I’ve been there, so so many of us have, and you can always chat to us x

Thanks girls. I’m feeling much better and happier already. He’s using social media as a way to be passive aggressive but I’m not reacting. It’s so childish.

Appreciate all the comments x