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How do you know?

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SweetPeaPods · 27/06/2019 07:18

How do you know if a marriage isn’t working? I have nothing to really compare it to. DH and I have been together 15+ years. 2 DC. Both work very demanding jobs. How do you know if it’s just a rut, or if really you need to admit that it’s not working?

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SeaSidePebbles · 27/06/2019 07:34

I begrudged and held a lot of resentment towards my exH. Not because things got bad, it’s life, but because he sat on his arse and refused to change anything. And maybe I could have understood that too, if it wasn’t for his reaction, making me responsible for his failings and ridiculing and bullying me for trying to salvage the marriage.

In contrast, I now have a partner who supports me. Took me a long time to believe he wasn’t just mocking me, that he was really cheering me on.

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