I’m stuck. Been with DH ten years. Married eight. Kids are 6 and 4. Haven’t had sex in three years. Live more or less as housemates, separate beds etc.
I range from actively disliking him to being largely indifferent. Sometimes we have fun. Most of the time we simmer and snipe. I think I want out and can’t imagine living like this forever. He literally does nothing for me anymore. I can’t remember the man I married. What’s worse is I just can’t be bothered to try. I despair of the fact he has few interests, few friends etc and rarely goes anywhere or does anything. He’s most likely depressed. I would be too but have friends and a social life.
He’s an excellent dad. I could never do anything that takes his kids away. And to a certain extent I will sacrifice my own happiness for that. We live in London and earn enough to pay the mortgage and live relatively well but no where near enough for him to be able to live somewhere else. I earn twice what he does. Our house was financed by my flat and inheritance so even if we sold it wouldn’t be strictly split. And anyway I don’t want to do that to him or the kids. I don’t know what to do. I just know I don’t want this forever. What would you do?