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Was it really me?

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Takeadeepbreath12 · 26/06/2019 19:39

Could do with a bit of advice. So XP is trying to mind fuck me I think. Telling me the only reason he hasn’t been able to bond with our DC is because I am BFing and that anytime he did something like change her nappy I would correct him on how to do it, but he only done her nappies on a few occasions and once he done it so tight it was cutting into her skin so of course if it looks uncomfortable or painful I’m going to say something.

He had on a few occasions left her unattended on our bed when she had pretty much mastered rolling over, telling me he could see her from the living room while he was on the sofa (I was in the bathroom unaware until I got back) or at 6weeks old put her up against the arm of sofa when my sisters had told him not too and she obviously sled down in between him and the sofa, he laughed and they gave him what for. So I think I became very vigilant around him with her as anytime he was left she was either ignored or put into dangerous situations. But now I’m questioning my own sanity.. did I cause him not to bond with his child? Should I have supervised and encouraged more?

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MikeUniformMike · 26/06/2019 22:28

Bump

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/06/2019 22:33

He sounds utterly useless and he’s trying to lay his failures as a parent on you. Bollocks.

I bf, it’s the only thing my husband doesn’t do. He changes her, dresses her, baths her, takes her for walks, chats to and plays with her, settles her, everything. He’s her dad, it’s his job to know and care for her as much as it is mine as her mum. He’s bloody lucky he didn’t properly hurt her with his neglect for safety.

Now you’re apart is it still all on you or has he decided to step up?

Don’t give his worthless accusations or opinions a second thought.

Longdistance · 26/06/2019 22:39

He sounds like an incompetent fool.

Aquamarine1029 · 26/06/2019 22:41

You're well rid of that idiot.

BobTheDuvet · 26/06/2019 22:44

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