6years help!!

[Ksmum1313]

I need advice.i met my partner on a dating site..6years we still here we dont live together but iv developed deppression and anxiety...hes never bothered to help me with it and 3weeks ago .he pretended to shout at his son when we were on the phone..knowing it upsets me..hes 45 ...iv caught him on dating sites but forgave but maybe thats why am down..i love him but he can flip at me so easy and he uses it ...iv just found out hes leasing his spare room.18years-65years male or females...hes 45..iv tried to say am not comfortable with a young female as we live 26miles apart...iam scared..i do love him so much and scared to be alone and the thought off him with another hurts but i walk on egg shells..omg

You are not in a good relationship. You are too dependent on him and he is a bully.
Get help for your depression and anxiety and rally round your friends and family and have nothing more to do with him.
You will do nothing but hurt with him, breaking up to him will hurrt but one day the hurt will stop.

He is no partner to you and you're wasting your life on him.

What is there to love about this man?. Walking on eggshells is akin to living in fear. He does not support you at all and pretends to shout at his son because he knows this makes you upset. You've seen him on dating sites and he flips on you all too easily. This is an abusive relationship you are in and you seem to be confusing love here with codependency. Why are his needs here seemingly more important than yours?. He is likely to be one if not the main cause of your current depressed and anxious state and it is likely your depression would markedly improve if you were to end the relationship.

This is a relationship that is really going nowhere fast because he is abusive towards you and does not give a fig about you. He is basically showing you by both word and deed that you are not important to him.

Love your own self for a change and seek help and support from Womens Aid on 0808 2000 247. You need to enrol yourself onto their Freedom Programme.

Consider too what you learnt about relationships when you were growing up. Have therapy to work out why it is that this man has at all been allowed into your life and why you forgave his various transgressions.

This is not making you happy is it? I think you need a good friend to help you move on from this relationship.

Get out now, this is no good. Women's aid can help you