My boyfriend won’t kiss me

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My boyfriend won’t kiss me and I don’t know what to do. I’m only a teenager and we’ve been going out for nearly 2 months and we still haven’t done anything past hugging. Don’t feel that he is comfortable and don’t want to pressure him into anything but feel that I can’t break up with him either. I really like him as he is very sweet but I don’t want to be in a relationship that isn’t progressing. How do I end things in a nice way?

"Ive had a great time but I don't really think we are suitable for each other " You might find he is thinking the same thing .

End it...it sounds like hard work.

Not jumping into a physical relationship right away is NOT necessarily a bad thing, op, especially when you're just a teen. How old are the both of you?

Thanks for your response! We are young- I’m 17 and he’s 18 and I’m his first girlfriend. We also live in different cities (about half an hour away) but we do have mutual friend so it’d be awkward.

I think he's entitled not to rush into doing anything he's not ready for. And you are entitled to end the relationship if you want to

Maybe just suggest that you'd be better off as friends.

Hell Yeah you can break up with him.

You just way you have realised you are both better as friends.

When he protests, just keep repeating that you are really friends and its not really ever changed into anything more and so it's best to just go back to that officially.

Say that it was an experiment and a great adventure, and it's nobody's fault that it has come to its natural end, but it has.

Say you really wish him well.

It's going to be an awkward conversation but better a 10 minute awkward conversation than another few months of it dragging on pointlessly.

But don't tell your friends he won't kiss you. You don't know what's going on there but he doesn't need to be gossiped about.

Why can't you just talk to him about it? Also, of COURSE you can break up with him if the relationship isn't working. Just because you have a mutual friend doesn't mean you're stuck with him for life.

Have you tried to kiss him? Have you spoken about his reasons for not wanting to?

I feel like he’d feel even more pressured and just force himself to do it if I did mention it. But maybe he does need to know?

Is he shy?

Has he had a religious upbringing and doesn’t want to get physical straight away?

Is he gay?

Like PP said, nowt wrong with taking it slow if that’s what you both want. Plenty of time for other stuff.

If you’re really not happy with the pace of things then can you talk to him, in a non-pressuring way? Him doing things against his will just to please you isn’t going to end well for either of you and you wouldn’t like it if it was the other way round.

If he doesn’t want to go further and you do then I’m afraid you’re just not well matched and you’d be better off calling it quits.

He might be embarrassed OP since your his first GF he mightn’t have kissed anyone before... so maybe don’t take it personally. Are yous at a place where you can discuss it? Would you have the confidence to ask ... why?

He does just say he’s too nervous which is fair enough as it’s his first kiss and not mine.

Surely situations crop up where you could just give him a quick peck, when you're saying thankyou for something for instance, and then linger a bit. He might be worth the wait.

Why don't you start the kiss? It could be mind blowing, if not you might be better as friends.

Oooh young love!

This happened to me in a brand new relationship before, the issue was he had awful breath and I couldn’t stomach it. He wouldn’t take hints at all, and as it put me off so much I didn’t bother trying to tell him the truth I just ended it. Wonder if it’s something similar and he’s too embarrassed to say.

Do you get time alone together or are you always in a group of friends? Try and meet up just the two of you, he sounds shy