Feeling unlovable

[HurtAndSadAgain]

I’m so hurt and sad. I think that I have accepted that the man I love can never love me in the way I need and deserve. It really really hurts.

Unfortunately I can’t go NC with him because of other complicating factors. How can I get over him? I went through a phase of forcing him out of my mind whenever I thought of him but that not working at the moment, probably because the feelings today are so acute. I only realised yesterday that we most likely will never be together.

I love him and miss him but I have to accept that he doesn’t feel the same way about me. He’s one of those guys who, as soon as I met him, he told me that he doesn’t have a heart. I should have believed him and backed off. He’s toyed with my affections for over a year, no doubt enjoying some kind of ego boost.

Please can you give me some practical tips to get over him. Thanks.

Let yourself grieve for the relationship you wanted and just start dating. Set a plan to meet 4 dates every month and get to it, someone more suitable will turn up. (Also various even less suitable ones, make sure you weed those ones out on date 1!!)

How come you can’t do NC? Do you work together? If so try to keep conversations purely professional and make sure he doesn’t know anything about your private life at all.

He probably has all sorts of insecurities about himself that’s why he needs the ego boost, but it’s something you don’t need. Just keep your distance as much as possible and try to move on x

You could try cutting cords of attachment. Not sure if it works but a friend of mine used it to get a very toxic man out of her life x

Thanks everyone. The thing is he’s a wonderful guy. I still think he’s amazing. Which makes focussed on his negatives really hard.

We don’t work together but we’re very close family friends.

He probably has all sorts of insecurities about himself that’s why he needs the ego boost I think that’s it.

What’s cutting cords of attachment?

If hes just a friend of the family then I think you can cut all contact with him. Its straightforward enough not to be places where he will be and see your family without him.

If he strung you along for over a year hes pathetic not wonderful. Sounds like a right attention seeker.Only thing you can do is force yourself to think about other things and do other things as well.