Getting married when you have no friends?

[yardayarda]

Got engaged last week so started thinking about our wedding. However I am Billy no mates and OH is as bad as me now doesn't bother with any of his friends.

We won a wedding venue a few weeks ago before we was even engaged (I'm obsessed with entering competitions) the venue holds up to 80 people so thinking not to bother and just get married abroad with close family?

Sounds lovely. My dp's daughter and her bf went to Mexico to get married on their own, without telling anyone. They have got friends, but just wanted to go alone.

I'd go abroad. It'll be much more fun and so much more exciting!

Enjoy

You don’t need to go abroad to have a lovely small wedding but if that’s what you want and it’s an easier way to sort of explain the smaller wedding then 100% do it. When we get married there’ll be 8 others there. Family only.

You could use the venue anyway if you like it. The place I got married could accommodate up to 250 people but there was just me, my husband and two witnesses. But if you're not that bothered about the venue and would prefer to head overseas with a small group of loved ones, then do that instead.

You'll be surprised how quickly you can get to 80 guests.
Do you have family?
Aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings.
Do they have partners?
Children?
Work colleagues?
Old school friends?
Why doesn't your OH bother with his friends anymore?
You should never drop friends.
They are the ones there for you when things go wrong.
To help pick you up when you are down.
Friends are important so you should reconnect if you can.

But if you just want a small wedding then there is nothing at all wrong with that either.
A quiet wedding with immediate family only is perfect for many many people.
You have the wedding you want. I'm just trying to think how you could fill the free venue.

Is the venue what you want? It might still work out expensive unless you are getting all the food and drink for free too? The actual venue hire is the cheap bit! It’s all the catering and the extras that add up. The registrar alone will cost you hundreds as they charge extra to come out to a venue. If I didn’t have any friends then I’d go abroad. Sandals do inclusive holidays and weddings. Luxury! Lovely!

Sit down a write a list of who you want to invite, you might be surprised how many you have. your DP can still invite his friends, this may be the olive branch that he needs to extend!

What sort of wedding do you and your DP ideally want? Focus on this - don’t be swayed by having to use up a competition win or pleasing others. It’s your day, your marriage, your life.

This is one of the reasons why I no longer want to get married. I would have barely anyone to invite. No friends at all and very little family. I would be too embarrassed tbh. You say neither of you have friends but what about family?

Can you donate the venue spot?

My last wedding was just us and the witnesses. Couldn't afford to bring my family overseas and he didn't want to tell his family until afterwards (shyness)

It was great wedding though. I had a lovely lilac gown and we got married at sunset out in the bush.

Rather than thinking of ‘friends’, can you think of ‘people you like’?

I know it might sound like semantics, but while I can count my true friends on one hand, I have a whole lot of people I like and who I know like me. It just hasn’t progressed into socialising.

Do you have people like that in your life?

We only had 20 people at our wedding, a few friends mostly close family, in the evening i think we had about 40 which were mainly work colleagues. It was the perfect size for us and we got to spend time with everyone.

My husband and I just got married at a registry office with 2 witnesses. Nobody was present except them and obviously the bride and groom!