Ok not always. But today he is. MY DM told me that my DSis threw away some bedding that DH had stayed in (ashamed writing that) because it was "all sweaty, hadn't been changed in the 3 weeks he'd stayed there". DSis is quite blade with belongings (loses valuable things, does just chuck stuff) but still, fucking hell what was wrong with the bedding. I get the impression the house wasn't left very clean and tidy (DH has been staying there in the week for new job ahead of our relocation). Am embarrassed.
He's basically a slob at home too. Had been let off tbe hook for years because of his panic disorder - couldn't manage a lot of everyday things - but now he's so much better but still there's stuff down his side of the bed, plates and cups on the dresser on his side. He 'did the kitchen' last night before bed which was actually putting the dishwasher on with whatever was already in it. Leftover food and curry pan just left out. Asked him to sort it this morning, which he did. But I resent having to ask him to do a proper job. He just heard me doing the kitchen and came in and asked if here's anything he could do. Asked him to get laundry out of dryer, which he did, then asked if I wanted him to take it upstairs?!?! No, I want you to hide it in the cupboard with the baked beans and then do a silly dance in the basket?!!!!? 
He's always leaving everywhere a little bit disordered; gets of dogs and doesn't push cushions back in, doesn't make bed, gets DC up but doesn't make their beds or put any of their stuff away unless on weekly 'mission' to tidy.
I flip between not wanting to nag (cringed inside at writing that) and not wanting to have a constant battle. I go to friends and neighbours houses and they are all nice and tidy and I feel embarrassed at mine. He would say well we have young DC and not enough space and claims he does loads of chores.
Am tired of it all. Do I continue to live in always-slightly-rundown house, tell him a new chore to do every half hour or just do it all myself? All v well saying "he needs to take responsibility" but he's not doing. Sigh.