Anyone else struggling to meet men on OLD?

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No shortage of looks/interest in real life. But hardly anything on OLD.

The same for anyone else?

Yep it's rubbish... a few messages now & then but I'm 45 & messages either from old looking late 50's or young ones looking for a cougar, any that might tickle my fancy live too far away...

Well & truly given up

I'm currently on a break from OLD Shudders at the memory

Are all the men busy messaging women in their 20s? I had so much interest during my 20s, and I haven't changed much in terms of looks, just so depressing so many men filter based on age alone!

True but then lots of women filter based on height.

Sadly some people fair better on old than others for no obvious reason!

Just out of interest if you get lots of looks and interest in real life why don’t you just focus on that route?

Littlehouse156 Because I normally don't like the guys IRL. I'd like more choice. But beggars can't be choosers it seems. Really panicking I'm not going to meet anyone, I can't even go on one date. Shit, it's really over isn't it.

Can I ask.......do you get many initial messages from men in your age range ?? If do, so you read their profiles & reply back or just take one look at their photo & delete.

Hey don't panic! Promise there will be dates, it can just take time. I was on match and tinder. Keep going with liking people and swiping right......make sure you have interesting and varied pics. Head shot plus body shot.

I have been on quite a few dates, some good, others less so. But the guy I'm seeing I would have never consider due to distance BUT he pursued me on match, explained he has a motorbike and likes to use it! Point is be open!

Best of luck

OLD definitely works in men’s favour. Sweet shop mentality and all that.
All after (and sadly) getting a lot of attention from much younger women according to the Male OLDer's, in their 50’s, who I work with

Haha yes I always feel a little sick whenever I see a like or message from over 50. Don’t even factor them in, and there’s a lot of them! I’m not ageist but most women in 20s and 30s don’t want men old enough to be their dads.

Splendidsun8 thank you x

My partner and I are testament to the fact that OLD can work for people in later life. I kissed a few frogs along the way but then we met on Match, clicked immediately and seven years later we’re still happy.

sister's friend
matched a guy over 4000 miles away on tinder, they are now engaged and she has moved to be with him
hang in there

Nope. Have dates from men in my age range both times I’ve done OLD. I’m 48.

OLD attracts a certain kind of man in the main.

The good ones generally get snapped up in RL long before they put a profile online.

I'd explore every possible option of meeting people in RL first. Work, sports, friends, local pub or social club, meet up, church. Anywhere else.

Itsreallyallovernow good advice 😉 does the same apply to women on OLD?

How old are you, OP?

Mid 30s