Help me go NC!!!

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Ex is an abusive narcissistic twat to me and a shit dad to DD. I know I need to cut contact but it's proving very difficult, I feel as though I'm under some kind of spell and I don't know why because I can see him for what he really is! I have love for him as he's my DDs father but I have no desire to be with him so why can't I just cut the strings?! I used to have zero empathy for people in my position but its hard when you're the one in it. Has anyone else been through this? How did you manage to go NC?

well you do it for your dd don't you? - if you can't do it for yourself. You cut ties and protect her from the twattishness. Why would she be treated the same as you? Why would she have to learn about relationships from you and him?

What would you think of another mother who did that to their children? Not very much I think.

It gets easier with time.

Yes you're so absolutely right I know it, thank you for putting it so bluntly

I'm assuming I don't know you OP.

But someone very bluntly told me that I was being a crap parent when I put up with awful treatment from an ex. I wouldn't go that far, but really, do you want your dd to go through this? To see you treated in this way? To be treated in this way?

You have the power.